Dreams do come true
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Topic: Dreams do come true
Posted By: Juliet
Subject: Dreams do come true
Date Posted: January 15 2003 at 10:35pm
Ok,
I have been reading messages on these boards,
my husband like many of you loves long hair.
When he met me last year I had hair about 6 in past my shoulders.
I had been growing it for about two years. He adored it.
Which is funny, cause normaly my hair is shoulder length or shorter,
I had grown it out while I worked as a costumed performer in a titanic exhibet.
I wonder if he wouldn`t have noticed me if my hair was short.
Life is weird like that.
But shortly before we got engaged I cut it,
to what was supose to be shoulder length.
It ended up at chin length. Yea it was really bad, sigh.
But he loved me anyway and was so sweet.
Well that was May of last year.
But this week we talked honestly,
and I found out how much he loved it long,
but he never had the heart to tell me.
Because I`m really self-concious.
And he was also afraid of comming across, like a dictator.... "You must have long hair"
He was really sweet about it. So I decided to grow my hair.
I don`t know why but it make me nervous, I`m not big on patience.
And when My hair is longer, I`m a lot more shy.
Well, theres my story. Words of encouragement, tips or advice would be great.
Juliet
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Posted By: uzma
Date Posted: January 16 2003 at 1:34pm
Dear Juliet
I am so pleased for you - You have a good man there - they are a rarity so keep him close.
How wonderful that he is more considerate of your feelings and your opinion of him, than his own preferences regarding your appearance.
Why did you cut your hair before the engagement? I presume, based on your comments about being shyer when it is long, that you felt more confident when it was short.......?
Do you feel more self-conscious when it is longer? Is that because it enhances your womanliness/sexuality/vulnerability or some other reason?
I would encourage you to examine your feelings about yourself as your grow your hair out. Discuss them on this board if you like and see how many others experience similar and what advice you get.
In terms of patience and nervousness, I share your feelings for my own reasons and have found that caring for, decorating and perfuming i.e taking real pleasure in it as it grows out is a way of getting closer to yourself...almost like falling in love with this transforming appearance of yourself.
Go for it, Juliet. Be brave and go against the general flow. Enable your man to have the woman he loves be her most beautiful for him.
That is something to take pride in.
Best wishes
Uzma
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Uzi
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Posted By: Juliet
Date Posted: January 16 2003 at 2:20pm
Thanks,
When I was younger hair was always a weird issue. I had little control over it. There were times when having long hair felt like a privilege, that at any time might be revoced. (Wow, bad spelling) oh well. My mom kind of had supreme power over my hair. Especialy since she was the one who cut it. When I was very little it was even a threat to get me to do things. Like sit still or I`ll just cut this off. Or like, my evil grandfather, would threaten to cut it off, to get me to do his evil bidding. (don`t ask) But for a 3 year old that`s a very scary threat. So as I got a little older and stoped crying during haircuts, it was empowering. Then when I started taking an active role in my hair length, that changed things too.
When I cut my hair in May it was self empowering. I was afraid of losing my sence of self. Just being HIS wife. (no my husbands not like that) But I was very independant.
Also I often (when it`s the rignt length) feel very atractive. I also get a lot more attention. I feel like I look frumpy with long hair. Which is actualy just something that was been instiled in me by my mother. My whole life I remember her pointing out people with shorter hair and saying.. "You`d look so good with your hair that way".
Wow, I had never realized this before. When I was younger I loved long hair. I dreamed of having long hair. I also use to has nightmares about haircuts. Over time I just stoped believing I looked good with it. And if it was shorter I needn`t live in fear.
WELL! This HAS been interesting.
Thank you for your support and listening ear, Uzma. I`m finnaly starting to understand myself.
Thanks,
Juliet
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