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I just read the thread below where Zorak the frisbee and others got into quite the debate about whether or not we would ever *change* in regards to how we feel about our current hairstyles.Well, I've now been on both sides of the fence. Up until just a few weeks ago, I had long hair almost half-way down my back. I became defensive if anyone suggested that I cut it, and I was *very* attached to it! Then, one night, just in response to stress and I guess just feeling in an ultra-daring mood, I just started trimming and didn't stop until I ended up with (as JerkyFlea described it pretty well) an ear-length bob with the sides cut straight, so it looks like my hair is tucked behind my ears in a straight line. I previously described my hair as being "butched" (which is exactly how it felt to me) but it's easily a hairstyle that is a generic, TV news anchor type of style.Obviously the next morning I woke up feeling very depressed, horrified, and unfeminine. However, as time goes on, I'm getting used to it. I plan on growing it back, though, because I definitely prefer a longer style on me.When I read the posts of women who say they will *never* cut their hair, I have definitely been there and know how you feel! However, now that I no longer have long hair, I have to honestly admit that when I used to say that I'd never cut my hair, it was a sign of insecurity. I am not saying, by any stretch of the imagination, that people with long hair are insecure. I'm growing mine back but for a very different reason. But what I am saying is that a strong, defensive, almost fearful reaction to cutting the hair I do think is a bit insecure. That is a different reaction from saying, "I wear my hair long simply because I like it. I don't want to change it now, but someday maybe I will. Or maybe I won't." Do you see the difference? It's like holding onto something and never even acknowledging that we *may* change.I am definitely not a short-hair fanatic, and I am definitely not a long-hair fanatic. But now having experienced both short and long hair, I realize that, as someone mentioned elsewhere, hair is just hair. Yes, I *very* much want my long hair back -- don't get me wrong! I'm even going as far as putting extensions in my hair because I so much prefer the longer look on me. But when we are so vehemently opposed even to the *idea* that we may change, I don't think it's healthy.I'm not trying to talk anyone out of long hair at all!! But I'd like to suggest that not being so close-minded to the idea of change is good. When my hair gets longer, maybe I'll keep it that way indefinitely. But I hope I do so because I like the look, not because I'm opposed to change. Or maybe someday (hopefully a long time from now!) I'll decide I want it short again. I don't know. But I think we should simply open our minds to the fact that maybe we will change in the future.One thing I've learned is to never say never.....
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