Long hair on men
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Topic: Long hair on men
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Subject: Long hair on men
Date Posted: January 11 2000 at 9:04pm
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I am interested in hearing opinions from both men and women on this one. I am a married, 45-year old father of three boys and hold down a professional job of some status,I have suddenly developed an urge to do something quite out of character. It must be some sort of midlife crisis. I want to do something that I missed out on when I was younger. I would like to grow my hair long. I really want to allow it to grow for several months...or longer. If I thought I could stand the questions, the scrutiny, the fear of losing credibility...I would do it in a heartbeat.I have had short hair virtually all my life. I have always been a huge lover of long hair on women. But I never liked long hair on men. I had a crew cut until I was 14 years old. My hair was never longer than an inch until eighth grade. Even then, it didn’t get very long. I was able to comb it over. I eventually grew longer sideburns when I was in high school. Once I got to college....in the mid 70s when all guys were wearing longer hair...I finally let it cover about half of my ears. Once out of college...I went back to a shorter cut. Not a crew cut, but well off the ears and feathered high off the back of the neck.So that is where it has been for almost 25 years. Short, conservative, and disciplined hair. In early April, I got it cut shorter than normal. It was so short in the front that I could barely comb it over. That’s what I asked for...but it was too short, even for my tastes. Right then and there...I decided to go several weeks without a haircut.Now I’ve made it to June...that was a goal of mine. It still isn’t long but it is beginning to look like I need at least a trim. My hair now covers the tops of my ears. The short cropped hair in the back is beginning to get a bit wavy. The top of my hair is starting to get real thick. More gray is starting to show.But as my hair has grown out a little bit, my interest in leaving it alone has escalated. Now my goal is to make it to July without a haircut. I don’t think I can do that. It will look real shaggy by then. But if I do make it, I will go to the barber and ask for a trim only...not the same old shorter look I’ve had for the past two decades. I would like him to leave the back alone and simply shape up the rest...but not lose too much length. Then maybe I could make it well into August or perhaps even September. By then, my hair would be considered long for a guy in his mid 40s...and could be as long as it has ever been.If I could only get away with it....I would not stop. I would keep getting a periodic trim, only to keep it from looking shaggy. I would grow all of my hair out....maybe using a gel to slick it back for awhile until it gets through that awkward stage. Then maybe by the end of the year, I could begin wearing it in a little pony tail. My wife has some ponytail holders that would work....if only I could grow enough hair in the back to keep it pulled back. Then maybe by next spring or early summer, all of my hair would be long enough to pull back into a ponytail. Once it could all be pulled back, I could keep it tied back for as long as I wanted to. It would no longer be bothersome...although it might look funny to see an aging guy who never liked the hippie movement to be wearing his hair long.I would love to keep going for a few years and allow my hair to grow past my shoulders and well down my back. I would love to experience the sensation of feeling long hair moving down my back. Imagine how cool it would be to...every once in awhile...shake it out of its ponytail and wear it loose...have it fall in front well past my shoulders.I would love to have people see me and be shocked that such an old guy who they always thought was so conservative was actually a rebel....and that he had hair longer than most women wear it. Once it could all be pulled back, I would not even get it trimmed anymore. I would just let it get longer and longer and longer.I always wanted my wife to wear her hair as long as possible. She has resisted and would be much happier in short hair. Now I’m intrigued by the possibility and the desire of growing my own hair long. I can do it if I want. I just have to pay the consequences.My wife might be embarassed. My kids might be ashamed. I could lose my job, my friends, any credibility I have, and become a laughingstock. If I knew none of this would happen, I just might do it.My new secret desire.....growing my hair long. It probably won’t happen. I will probably cut my hair within the next couple of weeks....back to the length I’ve always worn it.But just maybe I’ll trim it just a bit....and see what happens. Maybe my wife will love it and encourage me to wear it even longer. Maybe I can get away with wearing a ponytail at age 45 and not be ostracized.Am I just an old fool or could a man my age and professional standing be okay in growing his hair out in this day and age? Is it even in style for men? How do I go about doing it?Al
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Posted By: john
Date Posted: January 11 2000 at 9:05pm
> I am interested in hearing opinions from both men and> women on this one. I am a married, 45-year old father> of three boys and hold down a professional job of some> status,> I have suddenly developed an urge to do something> quite out of character. It must be some sort of> midlife crisis. I want to do something that I missed> out on when I was younger. I would like to grow my> hair long. I really want to allow it to grow for> several months...or longer. If I thought I could stand> the questions, the scrutiny, the fear of losing> credibility...I would do it in a heartbeat.> I have had short hair virtually all my life. I have> always been a huge lover of long hair on women. But I> never liked long hair on men. I had a crew cut until I> was 14 years old. My hair was never longer than an> inch until eighth grade. Even then, it didn’t get very> long. I was able to comb it over. I eventually grew> longer sideburns when I was in high school. Once I got> to college....in the mid 70s when all guys were> wearing longer hair...I finally let it cover about> half of my ears. Once out of college...I went back to> a shorter cut. Not a crew cut, but well off the ears> and feathered high off the back of the neck.> So that is where it has been for almost 25 years.> Short, conservative, and disciplined hair. In early> April, I got it cut shorter than normal. It was so> short in the front that I could barely comb it over.> That’s what I asked for...but it was too short, even> for my tastes. Right then and there...I decided to go> several weeks without a haircut.> Now I’ve made it to June...that was a goal of mine. It> still isn’t long but it is beginning to look like I> need at least a trim. My hair now covers the tops of> my ears. The short cropped hair in the back is> beginning to get a bit wavy. The top of my hair is> starting to get real thick. More gray is starting to> show.> But as my hair has grown out a little bit, my interest> in leaving it alone has escalated. Now my goal is to> make it to July without a haircut. I don’t think I can> do that. It will look real shaggy by then. But if I do> make it, I will go to the barber and ask for a trim> only...not the same old shorter look I’ve had for the> past two decades. I would like him to leave the back> alone and simply shape up the rest...but not lose too> much length. Then maybe I could make it well into> August or perhaps even September. By then, my hair> would be considered long for a guy in his mid> 40s...and could be as long as it has ever been.> If I could only get away with it....I would not stop.> I would keep getting a periodic trim, only to keep it> from looking shaggy. I would grow all of my hair> out....maybe using a gel to slick it back for awhile> until it gets through that awkward stage. Then maybe> by the end of the year, I could begin wearing it in a> little pony tail. My wife has some ponytail holders> that would work....if only I could grow enough hair in> the back to keep it pulled back. Then maybe by next> spring or early summer, all of my hair would be long> enough to pull back into a ponytail. Once it could all> be pulled back, I could keep it tied back for as long> as I wanted to. It would no longer be> bothersome...although it might look funny to see an> aging guy who never liked the hippie movement to be> wearing his hair long.> I would love to keep going for a few years and allow> my hair to grow past my shoulders and well down my> back. I would love to experience the sensation of> feeling long hair moving down my back. Imagine how> cool it would be to...every once in awhile...shake it> out of its ponytail and wear it loose...have it fall> in front well past my shoulders.> I would love to have people see me and be shocked that> such an old guy who they always thought was so> conservative was actually a rebel....and that he had> hair longer than most women wear it. Once it could all> be pulled back, I would not even get it trimmed> anymore. I would just let it get longer and longer and> longer.> I always wanted my wife to wear her hair as long as> possible. She has resisted and would be much happier> in short hair. Now I’m intrigued by the possibility> and the desire of growing my own hair long. I can do> it if I want. I just have to pay the consequences.> My wife might be embarassed. My kids might be ashamed.> I could lose my job, my friends, any credibility I> have, and become a laughingstock. If I knew none of> this would happen, I just might do it.> My new secret desire.....growing my hair long. It> probably won’t happen. I will probably cut my hair> within the next couple of weeks....back to the length> I’ve always worn it.> But just maybe I’ll trim it just a bit....and see what> happens. Maybe my wife will love it and encourage me> to wear it even longer. Maybe I can get away with> wearing a ponytail at age 45 and not be ostracized.> Am I just an old fool or could a man my age and> professional standing be okay in growing his hair out> in this day and age? Is it even in style for men? How> do I go about doing it?> AlHi.Give it try. If your not sure about growing it out try doing it in stages. Keep your hair trimmed but, let it grow a little longer each time. I grew my hair out about 2 years ago. Yes, I got some funny comments but oh well. I now generally keep it about mid shoulder length and most people usually have good comments about it. I am male and in my late thirties. good luck
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