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Teresa and Noreen,I've been thinking it over and I want to apologize for the remarks I said ("freakish", "looks tasteless", etc). I truly am sorry. I'm sensitive too and those remarks would've probably bothered me too. I just thought that because I'd seen so many posts from other people who couldn't seem to understand why they got the remarks they did that maybe being blunt was the way to go about it. I was wrong and I wish I could go back and change what I did. I honestly didn't set out to hurt anyone. I hope you both believe that. Most importantly as a Christian I should have remembered to view people's feelings first. I failed to do that. I hope that you can both (and anyone else)forgive me. I just should have said it was too much of a good thing, or something along those lines. Until I posted to this subject, I think I might have seen your posts Teresa now and again (I've only been here about 7 months) and I don't remember what they were about and Noreen, I never saw your posts on any boards or knew anything of you at all. So, I just want to be sure to make it clear it wasn't aimed at you particularly-but still, I'm sorry to ANYONE who I might have offended with these comments. The trailer remark was a repeat of a remark by someone else, but it was wrong to repeat it, and I hope that you saw that I apologized for that on another post. If not, I'm sorry and want to be sure you know that. I still stand by my advice, and that was taking into consideration what people are saying, and being honest with yourself how it might look. I just shouldn't have been so blunt with my thoughts unless someone with knee-length hair asked me to be blunt, and even then I should write it to the person privately.Dave, I'm risking having you think that your taking me to task the way you did was the way to go about it, since I'm apologizing for it here.Mainly your posts just put me off, and didn't make me feel self-reflective. So what made me think it over? Like I stated before, my personal convictions, and also, remembering there are real people behind the posts. I didn't get any private hate mail or complaints-actually I got a few support letters.I still think you really take people to task for not even being all that negative at all. I guess that's something you have to decide for yourself but it explains why I did go into this strongly and not only because of your posts Dave but others I've seen that are ready to jump on anyone with an opposing view and don't even make the remarks that I've made. Well, I guess that's my problem if I decide to join in-I just thought since you pointed out what I did wrong, I want to also show you where you aren't being fair. Fair enough?:)) I must admit there was one statement you made that later also helped me to think about my remarks:> Yes, as you acknowledged before, I am sensitive. But I> consider that sensitivity> a gift. It helps me to discern the nature and intent> of the words of others.> And I saw your (and Ally's) words as being insulting> and derogatory. Would it> be too much to suggest choosing words that objectively> describe why you like> or dislike something without loading them full of> derogation?No, it wouldn't be too much. Like I said(believe it or not:))I'm sensitive, too. I actually thought most of this post was quite reasonable. Anyway, I just wanted to apologize, and hopefully Dave you and I will find more common ground in the future!:)If anyone would like to write me personally rather than here, please feel free.Thanks,Holly
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