If I think someone, usually female, has nice or unusual hair I will say so, since I find hair fascinating, but I find that people just don't seem to appreciate it! Even friends and colleagues mumble their thanks shyly and look at the floor, some give a look that says "What's it to you?" I only know one girl who took it as intended. Two recent incidents from my home town of Preston in the UK: A woman I know spotted another lady with a really unusual asymmetrically layered crop, went up to her and said "Excuse me, I really love your hair. Could you please tell me who your stylist is?" Came the reply: "No, it's unique to me and I want it to stay that way. Go away!" And last week I saw a close cropped "skinhead" who turned out to be a female, and she looked completely distraught! The obvious scenario; had all her hair off and instantly regretted it. I wanted to say "Hey, you look ok, really", which she did, but I said nothing fearing a reply on the lines of "Get lost, creep". What a shame that we seem unable to brighten peoples lives with an unsolicted compliment. Or maybe it IS rude??
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phil
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