Ugh
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Topic: Ugh
Posted By: Gord
Subject: Ugh
Date Posted: April 13 2004 at 10:01pm
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I've had a very forgettable last three days. Arriving at my sister-in-law's for Easter dinner, I noticed that her straight waistlength brunette hair was shorter by more than a foot and had been dyed a hideous shade of red. Returning to work Monday, I ran into a woman on the main floor whose sexy midback-length blonde hair had been cut to the shoulders in a blunt nondescript style. She didn't look like the same person. Turning on the evening news, I looked forward to seeing a favorite female weathercaster who had finally had let her straight blonde hair (with awesome bangs) grow past her shoulders. Alas, she, too, had cut her hair in a short bob that she had tucked behind her ears. (I sent her an e-mail, lamenting the loss of her sexy hair, and to her credit she responded, "I promise when my babies are out of diapers, Ill grow it back!" Using your children as a reason to cut your hair. %$$@!) Sadly, the worst was yet to come. The last time I saw a cashier at my favorite grocery store, she had a thick blonde ponytail that grazed her butt. I couldn't take my eyes off her (because she usually wore her hair in a thick bun) and I complimented her on how gorgeous her hair had become. Today, she had a ponytail, all right, but it was now brown and had been cut and feathered above the shoulders. The woman has a rather large frame and the haircut made her look even larger. Rather than tell her the truth, I avoided eye contact with her all together. Happy Easter? Hardly. |
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Posted By: Erinlynn
Date Posted: April 14 2004 at 5:45am
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Aw, dont take it too hard, at least they are not you and yuo know better. Was the blond cashiers hair naturaly blond? Im curious...aside from my sister I dont know so many gorgiously blond women whom dye their hair brown. The mousey blonds might dye it darker or lighter but those with naturaly lovely light hair (like Amanda Pandas) usualy keep it light. My sister is one exception though. She hates blond hair (oddly) and usualy dye it my color reddish brown, regular brown, dark dark brown burgundy or black. She sometimes bleches her hair and dyes it back her natural color or a strawberry blond but she never keeps it that way very long before she goes dark again. lol! but she has to pencil her eyebrows in dark, lol!!! Of course becasue her natural ones are so light they are barely there the ones she pencils in can be shaped however she likes. She makes them quite lovely and glamorous/chic. She definately doesnt need to pluck to get a lovely effect...its almost not fair. But hey, the dark hair and eyebrows makes us look more like sisters. My mom, also naturaly blond (actualy more an auburn blond) used to lighten her hair then suddenly she has started dyeing her hair brown for the first time in her life. She looks natural and just like me and my sis with dark hair, but she is truley a german blond all the way. poeple look at photos of the three of us and think that we are obviously simular. If they see pics of them with their natural hair color and me with my natural dark they think i look more like dad. |
Posted By: Hal
Date Posted: April 14 2004 at 7:17am
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Poor Gord... I feel you pain.. and wish you had before and after pics of each of these ladies. Please for you own safity... lock up all shape objects in your home until your time of pain has passed! ------------- |
Posted By: Gord
Date Posted: April 15 2004 at 7:41am
And, Hal, I love your sarcasm, but believe it or not, I do have a "before" photo of the cashier. Her hair was waistlength at the time, not the classic length it was when she cut it. And, naturally, I do have a number of photos of my sister-in-law with waistlength hair. Those photos aren't posted on any web site, so I can't provide a link. I guess with all of the talk in this forum about more longhair sightings in springtime, I was disappointed to find so many haircuts that were anything but an improvement to four different women in a matter of three days. |
Erinlynn wrote:Posted By: Viktoria
Date Posted: April 15 2004 at 9:55am
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Sorry Gord, I understand you are upset. It is difficult to see someone giving up that which perhaps makes them extra beautiful and special. But for women, and I have experienced this myself, sometimes one is just fed up with being watched. Being mousy and less eyecatching can be a relief, and free you to do more interesting things. Being appearance conscious all the time takes a lot of energy. If, for example, a husband makes a big deal out of ones hair (and I know husbands who wonīt let the wife to the hairdresser by themselves!) and donīt really see you, I understand that a cut might be necessary. ------------- The more you complain, the longer God lets you live. |
Posted By: enfys
Date Posted: April 15 2004 at 11:34am
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Locally (i.e. Britain) I seen to be an oddity with past tailbone length hair. Gord, especially for you, I will postpone my minscule trim as I try to get rid of my layers, and instead grow my hair a few more inches to reach my goal first, then get rid of the layers. Hows that for a consolation prize?   ------------- http://www.myspace.com/waltzin_with_the_open_sea - http://www.myspace.com/waltzin_with_the_open_sea Ah-ha, a place I can soon add hair pics...once I do some |
Posted By: Gord
Date Posted: April 16 2004 at 7:44am
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Posted By: DaveDecker
Date Posted: April 18 2004 at 8:53pm
Hi Viktoria, Interesting principle you bring up. I had never considered it before (of course, being as I am not a woman). LOL Couldn't the "hiding" be achieved by wearing the long hair in an inconspicuous manner? Something low key? Buns seem to fit the bill. (They certainly seem to make Emma in Austin feel unattractive). IMO one of the great things about long hair is that it be worn so many different ways. Inconspicuous (bun), subdued (braid), slightly restrained (ponytail), or attention-getting (loose & free-flowing). ------------- |
Posted By: DaveDecker
Date Posted: April 18 2004 at 8:56pm
Enfys, that is a very generous offer. Gord -- you happy? ------------- |
Posted By: KingVyse
Date Posted: April 18 2004 at 9:19pm
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wtf is wrong with poeple cutting their hair?Maybe you should just not worry about it and let those poeple live their lives,im sure their hair looks better than you think. ------------- |
Posted By: Viktoria
Date Posted: April 19 2004 at 12:47pm
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Dave: Well, I guess I was speaking in more general terms than hair, although the hairtopic made me associate this way. There is a lot of crap that goes into being a woman: high heels, red long fingernails, having to shave all kinds of strange areas, not to mention the greatest menace of all - make up. As far as the hair goes, wearing it loose is for me more a hide-hairdo than wearing a bun, but then a good bun is rare in my parts of the world. And I actually look better with my hair up. At least I think so. It sort of gives my face a lift, and I think thatīs what buns are so great at doing, and I donīt care what all the hairstylists promoting Meg Ryan hair says! Bla bla. My point though: being beautiful is not necessarily every womans objective. There are other ways of looking good and making a statement. KingVyse: Nothing is wrong with people cutting their hair, but thatīs not what the people on this board are generally about. And itīs clearly advertised, so anyone sticking out their neck about cutting off their long hair is basically begging for it! ------------- The more you complain, the longer God lets you live. |
Posted By: Bob S
Date Posted: April 19 2004 at 2:56pm
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Interesting, Viktoria. I, too, think that Western culture is too demanding of women, but it is each woman's choice to accept or reject it. From what I overhear, many women gleefully enter this competition. (lol) They love "glamming". Women should not believe that they *must* play this game to be accepted and succeed. A short, cropped cut may be a relief for some women. Indeed, men's attention *will* be diverted elsewhere after a woman hacks her hair like this. But, what is the solution for women with large chests or shapely legs? Full dress year round? I think Dave is right; a tight bun is usually less of an eye-catcher than hair worn down. Not to me, mind you, but most guys don't like buns very much. Yes, I've asked! (lol) As for the person who thinks there's "nothing wrong" with a lady whacking her tresses off, I agree with you. It is not "wrong", but at least 80% of the time, much beauty is lost, and I lament that fact deeply. I respect her decision, but I sure don't like it, nor do I enjoy seeing it happen. Bob |
Posted By: Viktoria
Date Posted: April 20 2004 at 9:54am
Yes, well, 50% of the people whoīs attention Iīm trying to get are women. Everything is not about breeding, after all. ------------- The more you complain, the longer God lets you live. |
Posted By: Bob S
Date Posted: April 20 2004 at 1:23pm
Viktoria, I was replying to your comment about women getting tired of "being watched". I thought you were referring to men's leers, primarily. I realize that women enjoy impressing other women also. Beautiful hair, BTW! Thanks for the pics, Bob ------------- |