Why do people try to sugest cutting

Jealousy in my opinion, speaking as a girl who was persuaded to go from waist length to short by a so-called friend.

eKatherine wrote: Many women find long hair on others makes them feel uncomfortable, but can't put their finger on what it is that's bothering them.

Great point. I must add... that these people may feel uncomfortable because long hair has always signified great influence. Maybe they feel less-than on the alpha scale / it threatens their social status.

Anais

Sometimes I've found in my own life it's also an outdated sense of style. My mother believed girls should have curls and always cut short. This was the only thing that looked good in her opinion. I saw her high school yearbook from 1952 and understood why. Every girl in there had the exact same short curled hairstyle. If you didn't have it, there must have been something wrong with you! 30 years later, she was still chopping my (to her, disappointingly straight, hair off). Her sister also told me she spent hours a day in high school curling her own straight hair! It's not a thing to have choices with to her, it just HAD to be a certain way to look good. My point is, my whole life she kept fussing at me to chop it off, and that's why. She thought she was wanting what was "best" for me...for me to look "good".

I agree w/ the all of the above, u guys make very valid points. I too used to have long, thick, black hair down to my butt, from the time i was small til abt 11/12 years old I got a suggestion from my hairdresser at the time, (actually my moms becuz i never did anything to my hair before then, my mom would give it the occasional trim) that I should layer it and add bangs. Well, she did that and then it was down to my waist. It stayed that way for a while and at the time I never used to appreciate having long hair, maybe becuz i had it from a young age, i dunno. It even grew a little longer, until i had it cut to shoulder length hair. (What a BIG mistake that was) I too, used to think, being so young and under peer pressure, that having long hair was "old-fashioned" so later on i had got it cut even shorter. 13 was when I first had any color put in my hair and from that time i couldn't stop, I had blonde streak put in my shoulder length hair. During highschool I had it cut short as in above the shoulder, then one day i was a hair model my junior year and it was cut short! Well short for me becuz it was just hanging down to my neck, actually i'm quite tall at 5'8 so I guess it felt more obvious. During that time i pretty much had it shoulder length, and now finally I've been letting it grow since my junior year, so its been approx. two years and now its actually long, past my shoulders but not below the bra line, lol. It would have been longer but i had to trim off the over-processed part of my hair from the time i had bleached and colored it several times. Sorry to bore anyone reading this it almost sounds like my hair's biography hehe, but I guess the point here is that now i would do practically anything to have that nice long hair back!
Sometimes u have to lose something to truly appreciate it i guess...

I totally agree with you all........I really think it is some sort of jealousy that they have short hair and know they made a mistake in cutting it, so now they want others to cut their long hair as well. A ladies hair is their crowning glory, so why want to have it hacked short? Beats me but this is coming from a guy who really likes the long flowing hair on ladies. Those makeover shows could all cancel today and I wouldn`t lose a bit of sleep.....

KB wrote: It freaks me out how fanatical people get about hair. Man, I'm not kidding. Go on the short hair board and count how many people told this one person to cut her hair into a pixie. Holy crap if she does that she will regret it. Not everyone looks good with a damn pixie! And I'm disturbed at how angry the long-haired people seem to be at some of the short-hairs. Now listen, not every short haired person hates or is jealous of a long-haired gal. It's just...some long hair is not always that pretty and might benefit from a cut. That's all. However, most of the super-long hair I've seen has been well taken care of and very pretty. In that case, you're right - why cut it?

I think they were just speaking in general, but my own experience wasn't from anyone else's jealousy but my own stupidity i guess u could say. Actually, now that i think of it, I also found it extremely hard to maintain...Imagine if they had de-extensions for long haired pple when they get sick of looking after it and then when they come off ur hair's long again! Haha ok this makes absolutely no sense, but i had to say it!!

My two cents in addition to all above: is it possible too that people make that remark a few days after it has been washed or when it looks untidy? It could make people voice the remark 'why not cut it?'. It is no solution to what they see, but maybe their way to hint something. The untidy look these days is associated with short hair, not that much with long (always nice, healthy and shiny in ads).

Cent two: during the sixties and seventies, there was a counterreaction to the 'long haired hippies'. The slogan: 'get a haircut' was very much on the 'mainstream' lips. Maybe that has stayed on too.

As eKatherine, Susan and others have written, other reasons are without a doubt at the basis too (jealousy e.g.). The 'urge' for everybody to conform may be in there too. Then the remark is made (turned around) by the same people to short haired women: 'why don't you have your hair longer?'

KB wrote: It freaks me out how fanatical people get about hair. Man, I'm not kidding. Go on the short hair board and count how many people told this one person to cut her hair into a pixie. Holy crap if she does that she will regret it. Not everyone looks good with a damn pixie!

Maybe so, but she didn't come here (the long hair board) for advice. I think it's a case of "getting what you ask for."

KB wrote: And I'm disturbed at how angry the long-haired people seem to be at some of the short-hairs. Now listen, not every short haired person hates or is jealous of a long-haired gal. It's just...some long hair is not always that pretty and might benefit from a cut. That's all.

I'm not aware that any long-haired people are unjustifiably angry with any short-haired people. If there's any anger, it's due to unwanted and unsolicited advice or pressure to cut (in which case, IMO, feeling angry is understandable).

Interesting idea, Veronica... the only facsimiles being either a wig or a virtual makeover. It's easier to "remedy" a decision to grow long (by cutting) than it is to to "remedy" a decision to go short (you end up waiting and waiting and waiting... for months or years to regrow).

Grace912 wrote: I've got to say that it's probably not all jealousy. One of my best friends has short hair, and she's totally jealous of my hair, but she'd never tell me to cut it. She admires it...

Hi Grace,

Your friend is sufficiently considerate and wise to refrain from informing you of her jealousy in an unpleasant manner. Not everyone who is jealous is equally capable of keeping their thoughts in check.

HD_EU wrote: My two cents in addition to all above: is it possible too that people make that remark a few days after it has been washed or when it looks untidy? It could make people voice the remark 'why not cut it?'. It is no solution to what they see, but maybe their way to hint something. The untidy look these days is associated with short hair, not that much with long (always nice, healthy and shiny in ads).

HD_EU... You're right, it isn't always easy to live up to the ideal.

HD_EU wrote: Cent two: during the sixties and seventies, there was a counterreaction to the 'long haired hippies'. The slogan: 'get a haircut' was very much on the 'mainstream' lips. Maybe that has stayed on too.

I suspect you are correct. Once implanted, some notions stay firmly in place.

HD_EU wrote: Then the remark is made (turned around) by the same people to short haired women: 'why don't you have your hair longer?'

Funny, I've never heard that one before. (Someone please enlighten me if you are aware of this scenario having played out.) Maybe it goes to show that the long-haired are more respectful to other's choices for themselves? Or maybe it's just that they don't feel that there's a reasonable chance that such advice would be taken (or even openly considered). Whatever, I think the evidence indicates that our society is generally biased in favor of short hair.

DaveDecker wrote: HD_EU wrote: Then the remark is made (turned around) by the same people to short haired women: 'why don't you have your hair longer?' Funny, I've never heard that one before. (Someone please enlighten me if you are aware of this scenario having played out.) .

Sometimes the question is just a question, not an attempt to influence. A kid once asked me, "Why don't you cut your hair?" Grinning, I asked why he did not grow his hair. "My parents won't let me," was his resigned reply. Not a short haired woman but surely the situation can apply to more than children.

Gormlaith

hai i am vijay haircare advicer and messur

my cousin sister has 98cm hair bymy tips and she really wants to grow more upto floor length.because her husband(my uncle) loves her hair

he feels long hair is sexy he never say goto cut and dont allow to trim also