QuoteReplyTopic: style for long hair? also posted on intro Posted: April 26 2005 at 9:13am
Hi Everyone...
ive just joined up so i thought id introduce myself :
my name is asmara, & i am living in the U.K.
i love anything to do with creativity - drawing, painting, making my own jewellery & clothes, writing & prose poetry.
im currently working as a henna tattooist to help see me thru uni fees (& lovin it!) , where im studying pyschology & HCI.
I have very long hair (just below my bum!) which is dark brown.
Ive always had long hair, mostly because of my fear towards hairdressers! (had a horrible experience when younger which put me off for life! made the mistake of opting for a perm on waist length hair and ended up coming out of the salon looking like i had something that resembled very short fuzzy frizz pubic hair, for my supposedly newlook long hair doo! )...however, im seriously considering to go and get it cut & maybe coloured professionally (my partner usually trims it for me.) i want to keep it as long as possible and add some kind of shape to the front, long layers or something. (i dont feel i could ever go short after having it this long, for so long!
I dont really have any idea what the style i want is called, ive seen it on many people with long hair irl, but for some reason not on online, or in any hair magazines!- that is one of the reasons i decided to join this friendly forum. hopefully one of you can help, or maybe suggest something, or share some pics of hairstyles/cuts for longer hair...as well as reassure me, hairdressers arent all bad!
Asmara xxx
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How many different ways do you wear your hair? (Loose, ponytails,
braids, buns, etc). I'd suggest experimenting with a variety of
styles (with your current length) and hang out here on the Long Hair
Support board for awhile. And feel free to ask questions, engage
in discussions, or just read... whatever you want.
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ohhh....ive tried lots of different styles, but i never feel "right" wearing it right back off my face. - braids, ponytails, plaits, all up, wavy after wearing it in braids for the whole night, etc...
i do cringe at the thought of having it cut, due to me being very attached to my hair (i feel its my protection - if that makes any sense to you..!) but lots of people are suggesting i get it cut into some style...a few strands shorter at the front, as at the mo, it is all one length (which is nice, but apparently it looks, um..."boring").....so im like...considering it.
if i dont go for it, i might just have it trimmed so the length is kissing my spine again...but i dunno....i just dunnoooh!
btw, i forgot to say it, sorry! - hello dave!
Asmara
p.s. the quality of the photo is very bad due to me not using my digicam (i broke it) and having to use a shoddy webcam, ...but, heres a pic of my hair at its present length when its slightly wavy (due to having it in loose plaits) i'll post some better ones from the back, etc... when i get another decent cam!
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...but lots of people are suggesting i get it cut into some style...a few strands shorter at the front, as at the mo, it is all one length (which is nice, but apparently it looks, um..."boring").....so im like...considering it.
This is the wrong reason to get it cut. You should only get your hair cut if it's what you want to do. Don't cut your hair if other people are bored with it. They don't count, you're the one who has to live with it. Clearly you enjoy wearing your long hair loose. If that's what suits you most, just keep doing it.
If you really do want that hairstyle you have been seeing around, here's what to do. You should get a cheap digital camera, and when you see a woman with that style, ask who her stylist is and snap her picture to show to the stylist.
But if what you want is a trim, but you are afraid of going to a salon, you can trim it yourself, following the directions on this website.
Lots of us trim our own long hair. It's cheaper, it's easier and faster than having to make an appointment, and there's no one to cut it badly or disobey you and cut too much.
Just looking for a few good hair slaves - is that too much to ask?
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I agree with eKatherine - it sounds like a clear case of "I love having
long hair but some of the people I care about are advising me to cut
it." If they like hair of a certain length, let them wear their hair as they like.
No need to apologize for anything.
Oh, and you and your hair are beautiful!
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thanks for your input, and the very nice compliment dave ...(i have to say, if that is you in your user icon pic dave, im in complete AWE @ your mane - just how long did it take to grow THAT long?!?)
im nervous enough about letting my partner trim it, so god knows how id feel in a hairdressers chair asking them to cut the strands shorter at the front and front ONLY (ive read a few posts upon the board where hairdressers tend to get scissor happy on long hair)...im really not to sure what to do at the moment. but what you say, i know is the right advice - i should only get it cut if i want it cut...not because people suggest it would suit me better and be a more "fun" style to have.
ive never really found fashionable cuts/styles and all that hair product stuff you have to use in order to keep it in shape attractive, and have always found the natural long mane much more appealing & in synch with my soul, but when the majority of family & friends keep on telling me to get it chopped, i cant help but question its length.
as for the taking a pic tip katherine, thanks for that! and the link.
id also like to say that the picture you have attatched to your message is absolutely stunning. is that your hair? if so, what method of styling do you use to make it look so beautiful? (i think i can see little plaits? as well as zigzaggy type of waves?) -
now if i could do such things to my hair, i wouldnt even be considering on getting it cut!
anyway, enough of my hair rambles,
*butterflies in hair*
Asmara
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What you see in my signature pic is abou 18" of my hair. I have twisted in two twists on top, and I have crocheted in some synthetic zig-zag microbraids to the base of the twists.
I think it would probably take a couple of hours to do my whole head that way.
My hair's probably about as long as yours, maybe a little longer.
Just looking for a few good hair slaves - is that too much to ask?
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Yes, that is me in the sig pic. I started growing my hair long 13 years ago.
I know it isn't easy to resist the suggestions of friends and family. But then I hear you telling us what you want -- and what you want is what is most important.
first of all, asmara, welcome to the board. your hair is gorgeous.
like the others said- make sure it's what you really want before you cut it. i've been in that situation and ended up cutting my hair really short, and i still regret it.
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katherine - i love what you have done to your hair. i can only imagine how long it would take to do all of your locks!
dave - so the pic is you! lovely! lovely!...its rare to see a man with such long hair these days. youre beautifully unique!
*ties her hair to yours*
katja - hi!
as you know, the ones you most love giving you their opinions on what would be better for you when it comes to style, etc, is a horrible situation to be in, espec when you have always valued their view. this is why im so confudgelated on what to do!
im sorry to hear you were also put in that position. i really feel for you where you felt regrets about having your hair cut. i do see tho, from your flowery chart (if its your chart that is!) that your hair is only 9 months away from it being waist length! so congrats on the wonderful growth katja!
i also clicked on the link to your piccy...so im now able to return your compliment - your hair too, is beautiful. its looks so strong and lushiously thick!...i also brightend the pic a bit (i couldnt see it properly ya see due to my monitor settings! - hope you dont mind!) when i lightend the pic, it let me see all the wonderful colours of your hair tones. you have a few strands that are the colour of caramel, which is so capturing! & if hair was edible, well, id eat yours
it smells at the mo...of onions. - ive been cooking...
your hair is boooootiful too ladyfrog! (just saw it on the pets playing with hair post) think it was that post anyways!
but yes, i can imagine it all free flowing when youre doing your gymnastics, bet it looks wild. and, so pretty when you have to wear it in a bun in order to not do roly polys on it...heheh
as you know, the ones you most love giving you their opinions on what would be better for you when it comes to style, etc, is a horrible situation to be in, espec when you have always valued their view. this is why im so confudgelated on what to do!
im sorry to hear you were also put in that position. i really feel for you where you felt regrets about having your hair cut. i do see tho, from your flowery chart (if its your chart that is!) that your hair is only 9 months away from it being waist length! so congrats on the wonderful growth katja!
i also clicked on the link to your piccy...so im now able to return your compliment - your hair too, is beautiful. its looks so strong and lushiously thick!...i also brightend the pic a bit (i couldnt see it properly ya see due to my monitor settings! - hope you dont mind!) when i lightend the pic, it let me see all the wonderful colours of your hair tones. you have a few strands that are the colour of caramel, which is so capturing! & if hair was edible, well, id eat yours
awww, thanks so much! i've never been told my hair looked good enough to eat before haha ...yeah i don't know why the picture's so dark. i lightened it up a lot before i uploaded it but for some reason it didn't seem to upload the edited version.
anyway, thanks again for the compliments! and i'm glad to hear you've decided to keep your hair the way it is. it's too long & pretty to cut
"If you're not failing every now and again, it's a sign you're not doing anything very innovative."
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Shiverpale said:
little plaits? as well as zigzaggy type of waves?) -
now if i could do such things to my hair, i wouldnt even be considering on getting it cut!
I
just had to chime in and tell you how beautiful both you and your hair
are! What you said made me wonder if maybe you would enjoy your
hair more if you had more style ideas? Have you seen www.dreamweaverbraiding.com
? On their menu on the left they have braiding instructions and
examples if you don't already know how to do those, and you can get
tons of waves if you braid your hair in small braids when it's damp and
sleep in it. I would definitely ignore anyone who told me
to cut such beautiful hair!
Making metal barettes/concord clips hair safe, long hair style how to: http://alonghair.wordpress.com
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ohh, thanks for that site and the compliment to us!
i know how to french braid, from an early age i taught myself how to do that.... but anything beyond that, i end up with aching arms and a mess when it comes to a DIY job. and sadly, none of my friends can braid
i gotta say, i do love the the longhair knot braid...and i have tried to do the eowyn style, but my hair slips out of it. i also love rosestem...not to sure about perimeter braid tho, reminds me of a loaf of bread i seen at the bakers this morning!
once again, thanks so much for sharing the braid site. all of the braids are beautiful!
I just put in a ponytail at gymnastics. I do stnad on it on occasion bu
tnot nearly as often as you may imagine. Mind you, it can be a pain on
the bars!
Google styles for long hair-you can come uo with some very odd (but excellently funny) ideas!
ohhh..and that would be dreamcatchers not weavers!
oh lordy, what was i thinking!..heheh...
and yeah...theres one braid on it i dont like tho. it looks like a loaf of fancy bread i saw in a bakery stuck to the back of a head. the rest are amazing tho!
i think im gonna get my hair done in tiny tiny little bo dereck braids very very soon...to keep me cool for when i go on holidayyy.
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)...however, im seriously considering to go and get it cut & maybe coloured professionally (my partner usually trims it for me.) i want to keep it as long as possible and add some kind of shape to the front, long layers or something. (i dont feel i could ever go short after having it this long, for so long!
Asmara
...but, heres a pic of my hair at its present length when its slightly wavy (due to having it in loose plaits) i'll post some better ones from the back, etc... when i get another decent cam!
shiverpale wrote:
...(i have to say, if that is you in your user icon pic dave, im in complete AWE @ your mane - just how long did it take to grow THAT long?!?)
