I can't keep my fingers out of my hair!

Hi SuperGrover

From my "Body Language Bible":-

Someone that fiddles continually with their hair - shifting position, finger-combing, twisting, pulling fingers down the length - is unsure about themselves &/or a decision that is playing on their mind.
If the same person proceeds to stroke or pat their hair/head, they are trying to comfort themselves, or calm themselves down.
They need touch therapy e.g. a massage ...or love-making...(well it's cheaper!!) as well as dealing with the root cause of the problem (no pun intended).

If the hair touching and stroking is conducted while in the presence of someone you are attracted to, then it is "preening". A way of getting that person to notice your "assets".

That's what the Corporation says, anyway.....

so....what does it mean if i can't keep my fingers out of others' hair?

Hi Grover,

I think I've been playing with my hair because this is the longest my hair has ever been, and I am enjoying it immensely! It is a whopping 15 inches long now!

I suppose it's usually an insecurity or boredom behavior. But I think a person's hair lays differently with longer length. Are you going through something more like a *length adjustment?* That's what it sounds like to me.

I'm right there with you on that non-verbal communication course req. I had one for my ed degree and did that feel forced. Thankfully, it was one of those P/F courses.

Ciao,

Jean

uzma wrote: that you are a very tactile and sensous pussy-cat . Miaow....

Spot on, Uzma That sounds like our catt_grrl

i'm always playing with my husband's hair

My hands in hair is the most comforting thing on earth..............Why do you think I do hair??

Omi-gosh!!!! Sooo happy to hear I'm not alone...Whenever my hair is down, and I've done this since childhood....I'm a hair twirler LMAO I find myself doing it watching tv, on the phone, driving, you get the idea...and it's the last thing I remember doing each night before/while falling asleep...it's a very relaxing thing for me...do it when I'm in deep thought, etc.

Oooops...am a work and it's lunch time...gotta run out to the bank. See you guys...have a great weekend!!!

I like to touch my hair, too. I like to feel that it's nice and soft and in good condition. I also detangle it during the day using my fingers. And I also feel like it is good to distribute the oils.

But I try not to do it during a conversation, because I do think that gives off non-verbal cues that can be negative.

I think hair chewing is disgusting, and thankfully I only see kids do it--never adults.

Elissa

SuperGrover...howdee again :-)

I'm wondering if you know what blood type you are? Type A (and Type B) have the highest naturally occuring levels of a stress hormone called Cortisol. Cortisol is stored in muscle tissue. T'ai chi and yoga are both shown in studies to reduce cortisol levels - and hence reduce your stress levels. Type A's are prone to obsessive compulsive disorder but perhaps this is easily corrected with stress reducing measures.

If you are a Type O blood type..then exercises including cardiovascular workouts and weight lifting may give you the stress relief you need.

Anyway - hope this idea plants the right "seed" in your life

Take care,

Wow, LGOMH! I've never heard anything like that. I am A neg. I need to just chill! I don't usually get stressed out though, I'm pretty mellow. But I am obsessed about hair breakage!

Tee-hee. Elissa, when I hear or feel a hair break, I usually say "Ouch!" even though it doesn't really hurt. I guess I'm saying ouch on behalf of my hair, cuz it can't talk. Then I stop playing with it!