I love long hair but I hate mine! Help me please!

Hi!

I'm sorry to hear about how much you don't like curly hair. For a long time, I wished for curly hair, and it wasn't until recently that I accepted my own hair.

I don't think you should be looking at a hair transplant or anymore chemicals just yet. The CHI irons are very expensive, and even if money is not a problem it still would be nice for you to have extra money, wouldn't it? I own a Jilbere de Paris Ceramic Tools Porcelain Flat Iron, which heats up to 446 degrees F, and that's close enough to 450 degrees. It works very well for a girl I know who has very frizzy, curly hair.

Good luck,
Mare

I know you're really determined to have straight hair, but I think curly hair is so beautiful. I've always wanted curly hair. I think that's the way it goes -- We always want what we don't have. I had a number of really unsuccessful perms in the late 80s. They damaged my hair and I never got the beautiful curls I wanted. Eventually I just learned to love my hair the way it is. It would be great if you could learn to love your curly hair, but if you can't, I hope you find a solution that makes you happy.

Best of luck to you.

Hello Ildjarn,

I was so sad to read about the people who laugh at you, because truly, they're just trying to make themselves feel better by being jerks. If you asked them, I'd bet most of them have NO idea how much they're hurting you.

Now, on to your questions! Scalp transplant? Sounds unusual, but doctors specialize in nearly everything today! However, I think a better option for you would be a flat iron. It doesn't sound like your hair responds well to chemicals. And based on what I continually read on the Net, I think that you should look into a CHI, an FHI, or a Bion. I'm an African American female, and you're probably better off than I am in the hair department! Our hair is typically extremely coarse, whereas yours probably has some smoothness if not for the intense curl. I just bought a Bion for myself yesterday and I'm very eager to try it out. If you want, I can post results as soon as the thing comes in the mail.

I actually spoke with a representative from one of the bigger eBay sellers. She told me (and this is information that is on the irons' packaging) that CHIs heat up to 450 degrees F. That's pretty hot! But that amount of heat should straighten out your hair easily if it's very rough. The FHI iron is adjustable, and since it seems to be less well known than the CHI, you can usually get it on eBay for less. As far as I can see, the biggest difference between CHI and FHI is adjustable temperature.

Then there's the Bion...oddly enough, people who leave reviews about it either really love it or really hate it. I've also heard about digital problems with them, which is a pretty big problem! But from what I can tell, they're supposed to be the best on ultra curly/nappy hair.

Please make sure that if you buy an iron from eBay, that 1) it's brand new in box, 2) the seller is reputable and 3) they offer a money-back guarantee or some kind of warranty. Nothing stinks worse than trying to deal with people who won't write you back when you have an issue that needs resolution!

Good luck to you in whatever decision you may come to.

-april

What kind of straighterner should I go for? I've seen so many of them on eBay... I'd wanna go for the BEST one out there even if it is just to try it out..

Thank you Viktoria and SusanW. I'll see what I can find out from the hollywood specialists.. About me getting to accept the hair I have seems to be difficult :(. Its something that I've always wanted to change ever since I was a kid and back then I thought that was the impossible. I've been searching for straighteners from a long time but none of them really works.

Thanks Dave!

I don't have curly hair, so I don't have much advice, but I just wanted to write because I feel your pain. It makes me sad to read that you detest a part of yourself so much, and that you recognize other good qualities in yourself, but focus on the one you hate instead. But I've hated parts of me in the past and I know the road I took through it was to change it and keep it changed for years until I finally learned to accept it. Once I accepted the parts of me I hated, I realized they weren't so bad after all, and didn't really matter much in the overall scheme of things.

Try searching the internet for information on hair relaxers and other straightening methods. If your professionals there can't do it right for you, your other options are either to fly to another place and try getting them to do it at a salon (but you will have upkeep as your hair grows and can you afford to fly to another country frequently to keep it up? - I'm not asking you to answer that question for me, just for yourself). If the staightener you tried didn't work, you may just need another product. Please read a lot about them, and reviews of various ones before you try anything. See if some people's hair doesn't react well to chemicals and try to find out on the net if your hair is that type (thought maybe you don't know unless you try). You can purchase these things online and use them yourself, but you should learn as much as you can about using them before you buy to make sure you won't make any mistakes and wind up bald or damaged. Read the "curly hair" and "straight talk" part if this forum for information there on straightening also. Many people here in the US straighten their hair, so there is certainly a way to do it with good results if you wish. And the straightening irons do work, but are damaging as said above. And remember, many of us also curl our hair so we can look like you!.
Good luck.

They may continue laughing but let me forget about the people around for a while. I know for a fact that I would be happy with straight hair than what I have right now cause what I have right now is really SAD.

I know that to accept what I have is the best option I have but I don't want to do that. I don't think anything is impossible so I want to continue to seek what I really want and like I said, I do not mind at all going through any kind of surgical procedures but I haven't heard of anybody who's done that kind of thing and I don't know who to ask. Even a so called "certified professional" out here is nothing better than an absolute idiot and I've got really good number of experiences with all of them. I've ended up spending thousands of dollars and ended up getting nothing or losing my hair.

I wanna try doing something in some other country but not sure what I need to do and where I should go.

Is there a remote possibility of getting my whole scalp replaced with somebody else's scalp. They do all those heart transplants and all that so why not something like this. To me this will make a really big difference. A lot of my friends would do anything to just gain height and everything. To my bad luck, I have height and everything that the others don't have and they're blessed with what I always wanted.

Anyway, is some sort of a transplant possible?

Hello Ildjarn!

I have no clue what people in India are like, but it seems to me your problem is not really about your hair, but with your relations. One the one hand, you want everyone to accept you, on the other hand, you want to look this way that other seem (?) to think is foolish. And if it´s about length or no length, why do you think straight long hair rather than curly long hair will make people stop laughing?

Wanting to do your own thing is always going to make some people stop and express themselves, sometimes to admire you, sometimes to get you "back on track" - their track. I second MissKitty4: embrace it, if it´s really what you want and it expresses who you are. We can´t all be the same. Most of us straighthaired people would love to have been born with curls. I envy you.

in all honesty i think people might laugh at it because they dont believe men should have long hair. Most people who think its cool for a man to have long hair, wouldnt have a problem with curly or puffy hair. You cant imagine how hard it is to be a women with puffy, frizzy and curly hair. It matters more.
Enjoy it, dont play with it, embrace it. Who says that hair has to be straight? Which rule? Its yours so love it, flaunt it