QuoteReplyTopic: I just got a trim!!! Posted: May 09 2006 at 6:06pm
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The trim turned out well, Rini. That was brave of you to just wing it, go to any old stylist. Although they were rude and disrespectful, at least they respected your stated wish for just a 1" trim. It's looking great and I'm sure it will look even better, more full and lush, as it grows longer, too. Thanks for sharing these pictures with us!
ahh! I agree with what Susan says! Rini, I am new on this board. I saw your thread here and have to say a few things! She sounds like she has limited experience with hairtypes (especially combing it out like that). But you did get a good trim without her taking alot off which can be difficult to do in a salon. Your hair still looks healthy and wonderful!
They are all in this for money and if no one cut their hair they would have no business. I am sorry to hear she took that stance with you and made you feel uncomfortable. I am sure she is quite ignorant about henna and other hair care which is good for hair and probably didn't want it to show. valerie
Looks lovely Rini! I'm surprised she'd look at you in any way
that made you feel bad considering how ignorant she was about her job.
It takes a real idiot/jerk to be so high and mighty arrogant when they
don't know anything about what they do for a living! I agree its
often jealousy that gets people talking bad about long hair, but
sometimes its not even the jealousy of the person making the
comments. It could be they heard it from someone they respected
so they took it on as their own opinon without ever thinking about it
much. And sometimes I think they just teach them to talk bad about long
hair in salon school so they get more business when they convince you
that you don't want it anymore.
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You are totally correct on the multiple personality hair thing. I'm having a good hair day today and am tempted to go into that salon and dare her to criticise it!!!!
Hey wouldn't it be fun if you took pics of your hair in "april" mode, then "november" mode etc.....we could play "guess whose hair"!!!
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Hey there Rini - I've been incommunicado for awhile. You were very brave to get a trim, and it sounds like it was a good experience just because you learned a bit about trimming layers, and you learned not to go back there!
I have had so many similar experiences over the years. I remember one time having my hair "done" for a wedding (the bride had asked all of us bridesmaids to go to the same salon). The stylist truly hated my hair and didn't hold back her feelings. Being your hair twin, I can vouch for you that stylists usually don't understand our type of hair.
One of the interesting things about my hair (and possibly yours?) is that it can look one way, and then the next day it can look completely different. This can make our photos somewhat different from month to month. I have had your "April" look, and then the next month it looks more like your "November" photo.
The trimmed ends look great, and 22 inches is a great place to be!
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$30 for a trim...girl, you got ripped off! But I think you know that
already. And she sounded rude...I wonder how she would have reacted if
you mentioned that you were wanting to try CO again. At least I think
you are.
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That was a very expensive trim! It's great that she did what you asked for but she should have done that if she was only going to charge $10. As for making you feel bad that's just not on. My hair dresser used to make comments about styling and layering etc but always complemented the texture and colour (henna-ed) and how fast my hair grew. The last time I saw her she made me stand to have my hair cut as she couldn't reach it when I sat down but still only trimmed it (charged about £4 I think). Yes she would have liked to take off more and she did give me some terrible hair cuts until I decided it was trims only but she did what I asked her and found somthing good to say.
I'm so glad I can get away with micro trims now, I really don't miss hairdressers!
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I'm glad she did what you asked at least.I know my stylist didnt charge me full price for trims.And didnt give me any crap either for wanting to grow my hair out.Its really noones business what you do with your hair.Your hair looks great though.
Tdouty:I agree I think when girls pressure other girls with longer prettier hair to cut,its out of jealousy.Rarely are they looking out for the friends best interest.I have a friend who acts like she hates me whenver I wear extensions.As soon as they're out she's my best friend again.Girls can be very shady.
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To be honest, your hair really does not look damaged. It sounds like this hair dresser really did not know much about her work, especially given her ignorance of henna. But at least she did follow your instructions and did not lop off four or five inches.
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I'm not really sure what's up with the April pic! It was taken after I damp bunned it and straightened it out a bit (no heat btw!). I guess the ends look more even that way. Mind you, the before and after pics I just posted are kind of straightish too. My ends look the most straggly when my hair is really wavy....although I haven't let it go like that yet since the cut, so we will see what happens.
tdouty and Bob....I AM growing my layers out, but I just wanted a tiny bit trimmed off them as they looked really wispy. Believe me, they are catching up fast to my overall length and I am going to continue trimming them a tiny bit until they catch up completely. I don't have too much to go....so hopefully I'll see the fruits of my patience some time in the next year or so (and you'll see it too! )
Just want to add: Originally I wanted my hair as long as it could possibly be by Christmas time. I have a wedding to go to then and I really wanted long hair. I was unconsciously putting pressure on myself to achieve a certain length in a certain time. Now, I've decided that growing my hair is a lifetime comittment and I'm really going to savour each length. So it's OK to trim it if it's looking bad I'm going to be trimming regularly (although only tiny bits) and I think this is the way to go for me now.
It should be a pampering experience to visit the hairdresser for a trim although many stylists seem to be continually in another world when it comes to the needs of their clientele. Your hair continues to grow beautifully though Rini . The vitality provided by being blessed with naturally wavy hair is a quite envious feature and will continue to be so as more length eventuates over the next couple of years.
Your ends do look thicker and healthier. And at least she didn't hack off six inches.
But seriously, $30 for some ditzy hairstylist to cut off an inch of hair and make you feel bad about yourself?! What a rip-off. At least you know not to go back there again!
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Yes, I think you got ripped off, Rini, but it does look nice. And you learned to stay away from hairdressers, so that's good! (lol) The best thing you did was get that razor away from your head before it was too late. It never would have turned out as pretty with a razor.
Yes, you should let Hubby trim it for you in the future, I think, but if you are going for all one length, consider allowing the shorter layers to grow unimpeded by trims. I've found that even seasoned pros can botch layering, and all it takes is one goof to set you way back. Again, I like it. All the best, Bob
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I'm curious why you didn't want your husband to trim it for you? I wouldn't want to do layers so I'm guessing it's because of wanting just a bit cut off the layers to snip damaged ends. I've done all of Jennifer's trims since she started growing it out. At that time, though, she had layers and we were just cutting the length to let the layers catch up so I never had to do anything with that. Now it's all one length so it's pretty simple to trim. I think you got a very good cut. The ends do look much better, but I'm curious too how they look so good in the April pictures?? Thanks for your story. It just exemplifies what goes on in typical salons. They don't want people to grow their hair long because then they may only come in every 9 months .. if that .. so they can't collect that $30 every-other month.
In general, though, I can't figure out why so many people (usually other females) try to talk women with long hair into cutting it ... just like the salon lady looked at you like you were from another planet. Jennifer has a daughter that is in 5th grade and has hair to her waist. She comes home from school many times saying that she needs a trim because the other girls in school tell her that she should cut her hair because it doesn't look nice. She has that typical "V" shape from hair that grows like a weed. Jennifer and I agree that it's probably jealousy. The other girls are jealous of her hair because their's is short and want her to look like all the other girls so they try to convince her to hack it off.
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There are some people who don't understand the desire not to look
like everyone else. It is possible she is one of them. At least a) she
listened, b) your hair is undamaged by her actions, and c) you learned
from this experience. Just think of all the money you'll save by not
going.
I have a long hair Guru (Mac Daddy is such an awesome nickname
for him too) who will trim my hair without making me feel 2 inches high
for wanting to be different. Maybe you will have better luck finding
someone who understands and wants you to succeed in your goal.
As fate would have it, my business is all about you.
If she didn't know not to fine comb/ brush wavy/curly hair then I'm not
surprised that she didn't know about henna. I'm sorry she made you feel
like thatWe all think your hair's gorgeous! Glad you got a good cut though.
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