Girlfriend's hair

Frank wrote: I offered to give her the full beauty treatment as a gift, a day package, at an area salon. It worked!! She is going to have her hair set and styled in J-Lo like curls. I didn't believe she would agree to it but she seemed surprised that I didn't believe she would do it. It's kinda like she told me no she wouldn't curl her hair expecting me to ask her again later. It was really no problem with her. She said sure, she would try it if I wanted her to ,then she gave me a kiss and thanked me for the beauty package.

I'm glad it worked out and I'm VERY glad that she didn't get it permed!

I would like to thank all of you ladies for your replies.>>>I do appreciate it. Good points made. Thanks.

Lady Maria>>>> A special thanks to you. I made the suggestion to my lady that you suggested. I offered to give her the full beauty treatment as a gift, a day package, at an area salon. It worked!! She is going to have her hair set and styled in J-Lo like curls.
I didn't believe she would agree to it but she seemed surprised that I didn't believe she would do it. It's kinda like she told me no she wouldn't curl her hair expecting me to ask her again later. It was really no problem with her. She said sure, she would try it if I wanted her to ,then she gave me a kiss and thanked me for the beauty package. SWEET!!! I did all of that worrying about asking her again for nothing!!!!!!!
It was no sweat! SWEET HUH! YOU BETHCA!

Thanks again Lady Maria!!>>>>>>> Great suggestion!!!!!

"Getting J-Lo's hair is a very popular request in the salon, but you would need 1)be latino 2) have a hair style team working for you. "


Um that is very ignorant for you to say. You dont have to be latino to get jlo's hairstyle! all you need to do is get a set of rollers and style it in a similar manner!

Lady Maria wrote:

"I agree a woman shouldn't be forced to, or even be pressured to, change her hair style, but honestly haven't you ever done anything to please a man, and hasn't a man sometimes done things to please you? Sometimes people do that for each other. And this is a pretty simple, relatively trivial thing, getting your hair done!"


I'm sorry; I forgot to answer your question and I didn't mean to "ignore" it. No, I have never done anything to please a man. Well, not apperance-wise. I've done nice little things like give unexpected gifts and stuff. People do THOSE kinds of things for one another.
I've had guys tell me I'd look better with shorter or longer hair, suggest wearing certain clothes, comment on my makeup... Where are these guys now? Who knows? I'm happy with how I look and I don't mind putting my hair up sometimes if a boyfriend likes it that way, but I wouldn't do something permanent to it just because he requested it.
I hope I don't sound like I'm bickering with you; I'm not. I guess I feel a little sensitive because I know some real jerks. I'm all about doing things to make yourself happy before you change to please others.

Well - she apparently doesn't want to do this. I suggest
you drop this and don't put more strain on the relationship.
There's nothing ugly about her present look, right? Don't
try and fix what ain't broke.

Perms ARE bad for the hair. I would never recommend
them.

Honestly, I'd drop it if I were you. She has beautiful hair, right? Perming can damage her hair. It's up to her, of course, but don't push her if she doesn't want to do it. A woman should never change anything about herself to please a man.

Frank wrote: Need some advice from women so ladies if you don't mind responding>>>>> I love the long haired permed look on women. I don't mean tight curls I mean a permed look like J-Lo has you know the curls at the bottom of her hair as it cascades down past her shoulders. You seen Jennifer Lopez's permed look. Do you know what I mean? My girlfriend who is 22 and BEAUTIFUL has straight dark hair a little past her shoulders and I asked her to curl it perm it like J-Lo and I showed her a photo of J-Lo and my girlfriend is beautiful like Jennifer. The problem is she doesn't want to set her hair or go to a beauty shop and have it permed. So Ladies on this Hair Talk Board my question is,-How can I convince her to do this. she would look SO GOOD!

number 1 if she doesn't want to you can't convice her to do that. would you like it if she wanted you to do something that you didn't want to do? in the summer my husband wanted to grow out his hair. i like it better short. he ended up cutting at the end of summer because HE wanted to. i love him no matter how his hair is. sure i can put my 2 cents in but HE has to do what he likes. plus he is a good looking guy no matter what.
number 2 have you seen j-lo in he new video? it is pin straight. personally i like it better. that's just me though. also if your girlfriend's hair is straight [i don't know what type of hair she has] it may not take to a curl. i have a cousin who has straight hair and the curl doesn't stay.

Need some advice from women so ladies if you don't mind responding>>>>>

I love the long haired permed look on women. I don't mean tight curls I mean a permed look like J-Lo has you know the curls at the bottom of her hair as it cascades down past her shoulders. You seen Jennifer Lopez's permed look. Do you know what I mean?
My girlfriend who is 22 and BEAUTIFUL has straight dark hair a little past her shoulders and I asked her to curl it perm it like J-Lo and I showed her a photo of J-Lo and my girlfriend is beautiful like Jennifer. The problem is she doesn't want to set her hair or go to a beauty shop and have it permed. So Ladies on this Hair Talk Board my question is,-How can I convince her to do this. she would look SO GOOD!