Dreams do come true

A man and a woman pleasing each other is what it`s all about, in more ways than just hair fashion!

...Speaking of, my guy is going to be home in appox. an hour. Time to put on something sexy!

Hello, AK.

Note she said her husband completely respects her wishes. So there is nothing wrong with
her pleasing him if she so choses.

Note that this is not a sexist issue. Many guys please girls too, by wearing their hair short.
Or shaving off facial hair. So this does not have to be about control but about mutual love.

And Juliet, your mom belongs in the same place as mine - before Dr. Phil at his most
candid!!!!! :D :( :D :(

Thanks,
When I was younger hair was always a weird issue. I had little control over it. There were times when having long hair felt like a privilege, that at any time might be revoced. (Wow, bad spelling) oh well. My mom kind of had supreme power over my hair. Especialy since she was the one who cut it. When I was very little it was even a threat to get me to do things. Like sit still or I`ll just cut this off. Or like, my evil grandfather, would threaten to cut it off, to get me to do his evil bidding. (don`t ask) But for a 3 year old that`s a very scary threat. So as I got a little older and stoped crying during haircuts, it was empowering. Then when I started taking an active role in my hair length, that changed things too.
When I cut my hair in May it was self empowering. I was afraid of losing my sence of self. Just being HIS wife. (no my husbands not like that) But I was very independant.
Also I often (when it`s the rignt length) feel very atractive. I also get a lot more attention. I feel like I look frumpy with long hair. Which is actualy just something that was been instiled in me by my mother. My whole life I remember her pointing out people with shorter hair and saying.. "You`d look so good with your hair that way".
Wow, I had never realized this before. When I was younger I loved long hair. I dreamed of having long hair. I also use to has nightmares about haircuts. Over time I just stoped believing I looked good with it. And if it was shorter I needn`t live in fear.
WELL! This HAS been interesting.
Thank you for your support and listening ear, Uzma. I`m finnaly starting to understand myself.

Thanks,
Juliet

Ok,
I have been reading messages on these boards,
my husband like many of you loves long hair.
When he met me last year I had hair about 6 in past my shoulders.
I had been growing it for about two years. He adored it.
Which is funny, cause normaly my hair is shoulder length or shorter,
I had grown it out while I worked as a costumed performer in a titanic exhibet.
I wonder if he wouldn`t have noticed me if my hair was short.
Life is weird like that.
But shortly before we got engaged I cut it,
to what was supose to be shoulder length.
It ended up at chin length. Yea it was really bad, sigh.
But he loved me anyway and was so sweet.
Well that was May of last year.
But this week we talked honestly,
and I found out how much he loved it long,
but he never had the heart to tell me.
Because I`m really self-concious.
And he was also afraid of comming across, like a dictator.... "You must have long hair"
He was really sweet about it. So I decided to grow my hair.
I don`t know why but it make me nervous, I`m not big on patience.
And when My hair is longer, I`m a lot more shy.
Well, theres my story. Words of encouragement, tips or advice would be great.

Juliet