Bob, Just let her hair grow. Someday she will cut it, we are all sure of that. Is short hair that important to some? Does whe wear a ponytail alot? I am anti-ponytail. So when it gets hot out maybe she will cut then. Good luck and just be happy.
Just checking in to see what the verdict was. I think you need one of those dolls Bob where you can cut the hair. I had a doll when I was younger where you can cut the hair and then pull on the hair to make it longer again. No fun once the hair was cut all off though. If Kim is wanting to have longer hair tell her to join us on the long hair board. Would love to hear her point of view about her hair.
To me, it's very simple. My wife knows what I like, but she also knows that I love her no matter what her hair looks like. Looks are fleeting, relationships last forever!
Ok, I see you side. At least Kim is in agreement and you are not going to kick her out if she wants long hair. My husband on the other hand prefers my hair long and me too! Maybe that is why I prefer long hair on other people. If I got my hair cut short I know my husband would still love me, but I know he would wish I did not. Bob, if this is working in your marriage to for you to loose weight and Kim is in agreement then good for you guys. I know how hard weightloss can be since I lost 160 pounds on my own.
Maybe I can try your way with my DH and say that I will cut my hair short if he does not pick-up his stuff - LOL. On the other hand he knows I will never do it - oh well, got to think of another strategy. Well, back to the long hair board for me.
Good luck - but I still like Kim with the longer hair
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Currently, I am on the "losing" side and the resistance is strong so I am pulling back. I am hoping she will suprise me with a Christmas present but I think Santa will miss our house this year
The whole "should my wife change her look for my preferences" debate is a really delicate on in my household as well. On one hand it is her body, her hair, her look, and all that jazz. On the other hand I certainly hope that on some level she wants to please me and be attractive for me.
My wife and I go round and round over her various styles and in a lot of ways it is really frustrating that there is almost an "opposite" affect. She will resist doing certain things simply to establish independence if she knows that I want her to do something badly. There seems to be a fascination with it having to be "her idea" that is sometimes more important than whether she likes the idea or not.
I think in any marriage the effort to stay attractive for each other is something that is worthwhile and should be two-way. I don't think its completely out of line for a spouse to cater to the others preferences and I don't understand why people would want to be together if they didn't have some expectation that they were doing things for each other. That said there should be no ultimatums.
It is a somewhat enjoyable back and forth in my household. The reality is that my wife likes the attention I give her when she does her hair or her look the way I like it but she is somewhat resentful that she has to take those steps to get the attention. I don't think there is any right or wrong answer here if both people are happy with the arrangements.
With the weight loss wager I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. Kim by now must understand bobs fascination with her hair and she is offering a reward for him taking healthy steps and behavior. That is awesome.
You should get double credit for losing weight with a new child. That is usually the time of life when the stress gets insane, the pounds pile on, and relationships get tested. If Kim is looking better than ever, you guys are catering to each other, and making a wager like this then it really shows an impressive relationship.
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Hi Bob, I remember you from the long hair board when you wanted Kim's hair longer. I must say I really like her hair longer and with her weight loss she looks even more radiant. From a woman's point of view I prefer her overall look with long hair since she looks much younger. The pic with the bob ages her at least 10 years. It is such a "mom" cut. I know you like to look at her neck, but overall it is not flattering to her. I hope she is doing this for herself and not just for you.
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I hate to say it to you Bob, but I have always thought Kim looks better with longer hair. It looks really good right now.
I"m a short hair guy and conflicted with my wife as well. I like the short, funky look but in many ways I know deep down that she looks as good or better with it long.
What I don't like about it long is that it gets boring fast. Never changes.
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lovebobs wrote:
This haircut would be very good on Kim. Specially now she lost so much weight. It will be stunninnnggggggggg!
