negative reactions for having longhair

I would easily believe that this so call husband left the house because his " friend" was actually a female and he is having an affair and used the hair story as an excuse. I'm appauled that excuse was used and noone thought of your feelings in the whole situation. Next time maybe press the delete button and pick new friends. How dare someone not think of your feelings.
Not to bright on their part. Pretty shallow people.

Eventhought the reason was about your hair "if that was really the case" all precautions to protect your feelings should have been taken.

My hair is long for a guy - about chin
length. I don't want it any shorter, but
my family dislikes it, and I think some
of my friends who knew me from back
when my hair was a traditional short
haircut feel the same way. There is
discrimination out there still and this
is shameful.

Reggia, this is what happens in Jane
Eyre, a story which would happen in
about the first half of the 19th century
and may be based on something the
author, Charlotte Bronte, saw during
her short stint in a boarding school run
by a certain William Carus Wilson. Her
heroine, Jane, is sent as a child to the
Lowood Charity School by her un-
-charitable aunt, for daring to oppose
the rag treatment Jane gets from her
and her children. This school is run by
Mr. Brocklehurst, who claims to be a
very religious person, but is apparently
sadistic and makes the girls suffer by
imposing a puritannical discipline on
them, eg. underfeeding them. One day,
he remarks that a girl has curly red
hair and calls it vanity, although it is
natural - duhhhhh! He promises to send
a barber next day to get it cut off. If
I were a barber, I'd certainly refuse
such a despicable job unless Mr. B. had
brainwashed me! And he not only does
that but he decides that all the "top
knots" of the other girls must be cut off,
because they have a little braid or twist
or something in their hai. Duhhh - why
not just undo it! And. Guess what. Then,
his wife and daughters come in and are
not only well-dressed, but the mother
even has - get this - a fringe of false
curls in her hair!!!!! In the movie of 1996
or so "Jane Eyre", this scene is done
much differently and totally seems to lose
the point. You don't get that Mr.
Brocklehurst is sadistically inclined, you
just think he's puritannical (he orders
Jane to give him shears to cut her friend's
naturally curly hair. Jane hesitates and he
says "I will not ask you twice". To which
Jane gives him her hair to cut also! Sort
of in your face, but doesn't acheive
anything.)

Dave,

I dont think my coworker would cut it if he knew all that about Locks of Love. On monday if his hair is gone I dont know if i will want to tell him (might make him feel worse). but if he still has hi hair Ill tell him and then he wont feel selfish.

As for my friends comments and them working...well yes I cut it but it is still long so I didnt cut it short. i did it for myself, not from her comments. Now she can just be jealous that my hair is still long and looks fuller than before.

I dont know, this friend of mine is a strange person. She also says "James will never ask you to marry him. He will be a bachelor all his life" and "your hair is so thin, I cant grow my hair long becasue its so thick".

First off, my hair is not thin. Now that its been cut it looks thicker too. And to both her and her hubby my hair is still long.

Second, her hubby likes long hair. She says she wants to grow hers out but as soon as it reaches her shoulder blades she cuts it. She loves short styles on herself but I think she tries to convince herself that she wants long hair becasue its so nice on others and her guy likes it. but then uses the "my hair is too thick, yours is thin, i cant have it long" excuse to cut it.

HA! I know she likes long hair on others and is envious. But she doesnt really want it on herself.

As for James and I...she should mind her own beeswax. Thats a rude statement!!

Okay, this gal has a very offskewed view of what is appropriate and inappropriate to say. In fact, she just doesnt always realize when she says something that bothers others.

And!!! Oh forgive my ranting!! You all might be the only ones who understand.

She claims she can grow her hair as long as mine in a year!!! Now Im talking about going from 5 inches long to over 3 feet long. Yes, she DID claim she could do that! Thats about 3 inches a month of growth if not more.

AND a mutual friend of our with hair to her waist got hers cut to boy cut short...barely a few inches long. But my friend tells others that her hair was just as long as mine (um no) and then she cut it all off. Impressive story.

She usualy tells these stories when someon comments on my hair. "I could grow mine that long in a year since my hair grows so fast, but my hair is thick and so its to heavy to grow...our friend Ilia had hair just as long as hers and cut it all off"

Maybe shes trying to draw attention away from me.

Okay...ill stop ranting.

Erinlynn wrote: Personaly I like long hair on men. I find it Very attractive (well I dont like super long hair as much or really bad looking scraggly hair on men). My coworker has hair that reaches just under his shoulder blades. Its thick, a nice rich honey color and very healthy. He looks good. It looks professional too if he keeps it in a ponytail (and he works for the state govt). Id hate to see him cut it althoug he is pondering doing just that for locks of love.

Erinlynn,

Would your co-worker be as willing to cut his hair if he was aware that locsk of luv makes big money selling hair? Or if he was aware that they receive much more hair than they use in the wigs they make? Donations made without full awareness of such relevant facts are made in vain.

Personaly I like long hair on men. I find it Very attractive (well I dont like super long hair as much or really bad looking scraggly hair on men). My coworker has hair that reaches just under his shoulder blades. Its thick, a nice rich honey color and very healthy. He looks good. It looks professional too if he keeps it in a ponytail (and he works for the state govt). Id hate to see him cut it althoug he is pondering doing just that for locks of love.

reggia wrote: But the only bad comments I get about length are from my mother... For years she'd clip pics out of mags of cuts/styles that she thought would be suitable.......

Hi Reggia,

My father tried this "trick" once... at least he meant well... and thankfully he didn't push the issue. I think he must be at least reasonably happy that his son turned out to be "okay."

My worst fear is forced haircuts, but I find them oddly intriguing.

Hi Hippychik, I share that fear somewhat, too, and always blamed it on the Jane Eyre wherein there is violent anger as they force Jane into a haircut as some sort of punishment. For years, I didn't want to read the book so as to avoid that particular scene. Growing up Catholic, I learned of a true story in which a girl (St Catherine, I think) also endured a very harshly given haircut as a punishment.

Until I reached adolescence, my hair was always kept at my shoulders. Admittedly, I wasn't too conscious about it except when a schoolmate commented on its unkemptness. {blush}

But the only bad comments I get about length are from my mother, she was mortified that I didn't cut it when pregnant back with my first child. Furthermore, she believes it makes me vulnerable to attack. And at the least, is simply "not fitting". For years she'd clip pics out of mags of cuts/styles that she thought would be suitable.......

So sorry to hear you've been forced to ensure such treatment, Hippychik. I can empathize. Feel free to share your thoughts here or, as Uzma suggests, through board mail ("bmail") with those you might wish to discuss some issues privately.

Well, the minister wasn't as much help as I thought he'd be. He did tell my grandmother later that I was obsessed with my hair, although he didn't think cutting it was the answer. When I'd never been allowed to have hair, I did get a little obsessive and protective. That's only natural that I'd develop a extreme response in response to what my family did to me. I have a lot of issues now about hair. Instead of it being an accessory, it's my only beauty. My worst fear is forced haircuts, but I find them oddly intriguing. I go on those story sites, and am repulsed yet turned on. I'm glad I've found a place to just get all this out of my head.

I'm just wondering if any females here have had anti long hair discrimination. All my life, I dealt with a grandmother who has a pathological hatred of hair. My hair was above the ear at all times when I was a child. My grandmother would have it forcibly cut and permed and I was severly punished one time for screaming in the "ugly shop" that they'd ruined me. I always wanted long, flowing princess hair. Even the males in the family hate hair. My grandfather told me that if I was his daughter he would cut my hair to my shoulders just because he could. How am I supposed to believe they love me if they say things like that? As late as when I was 17, my grandmother told me that because I got lice (the one time in my life) that "That hair's got to go." I jumped out of her car and into mine and went to my youth minister and called my parents. My hair was saved. This is painful to talk about, but I'm glad to finally talk about it.