Do you ever feel ashamed of giving so much attention to your hair?

More power to you, p-b!

I used to think of this, too. I haven't thought of it in at least several years, now. But it is cool to think of. I think by now some portion of the ends first appeared out of my head in 1993! It's amazing when you think about it.

No, Erinlynn!!! I do that too! All the time!

I will look at my hair tips and wonder how old I was and what was going on in my life when that part of hair was just emerging from my scalp.

I think this way about many things. I live in a house that was built in 1925, and I think about what the first family that lived here must have been like, what kind of furniture they would have had in this room and how it would be arranged. Did they have wallpaper, or paint? What kind of curtains? What kind of car was parked in the driveway?

Maybe we are crazy, but at least there's 2 of us!

Is spending money on products taking care of your long hair worse than spending money on cigarettes, booze, pot, expensive clothing, expensive jewelry?

Well Tina, marijuana is illegal (except for medicinal purposes) in the US....

However, your main point is well-taken. Some people spend money on their pets, their cars, CDs, and other hobbies. If you look at haircare in that light, then it's simply a choice, like someone might spend money develping a hobby. Now, if it gets to the point of an obsession and interferes with buying food and shelter, then there is a problem!

Regarding the original question... "do you ever feel ashamed of giving so much attention to your hair?"

My answer is a definite "No!"

I actually don't give my hair much attention, anyway. Believe it or not. I just ignore it and "whoops!", there it goes and grows another inch longer.

I just wash it when it gets dirty... comb it when it gets tangled... braid it before going to the office, etc... that's about it. R-L has kept me too preoccupied lately. Now if you asked me if I felt "ashamed" (or some other unhappy state of being) for giving so much attention to the activities in my life which consume most of my time, well, that could make for an interesting (and much off-topic) discussion, BUT I do like to eat and have shelter, etc, so... life is a matter of trade-offs, constantly making decisions on what to direct our attentions...

I say if you feel you give your hair a lot of attention, and it pleases you, and you feel that you give adequate attention to all the other things in your life, then you don't have any reason for concern.

Hi Jacqui. Thanks for that response. I found it very comforting.

No, I wasn't raised in any religion at all. But I guess when I was little I had some Catholic-like ideas from friends. Most of my friends at the time were Catholic.

You have got me thinking though... I think it must be a sin to not enjoy any of God's gifts to the fullest! (So long as it isn't harming anyone else, of course) So I must change my attitude and never feel fearful again! About my hair anyway. I still think it is a good idea not to focus too much love on material possessions like cars and teddy bears and clothes and instead focus that love on the people in our lives.

Traci

PS You are right Amanda, not every Catholic church is oppressive, but I do think many of them are. They make you fear things in order to make you behave like a good citizen. Well... maybe they don't affect all church members that way, but certainly many of them.
But I don't want to get a philosophical discussion started. I don't want to offend you either. I honestly believe there are good things about all religions.

SG,

Are you by any chance Catholic? I was raised Catholic (have converted in adulthood) and a LOT of the teachings are focused on creating guilt for enjoying any of life's joys. IE, if you enjoy your hair TOO much and become too vain, that you will be punished by God for your sin of vanity.

It can be a very crippling religion...No offense to anyone who is Catholic. I am only speaking from my own experience. I have some remnants of those feelings still and find myself also trying not to "enjoy" anything too much...which is tough since life is so full of many wonderful things!

jacqui

If you have cancer Super Grover , your lack of hair will be the least of your worries.

Is spending money on products taking care of your long hair worse than spending money on cigarettes, booze, pot, expensive clothing, expensive jewelry?
.....And short haired women like myself spend less money on hair care but more on haircuts keeping our hair just so.


I wouldn't feel any guilt about it. Besides, people have to make the haircare products, it creates jobs, it is good for the economy.


I can understand though why people would want to use hair care products that are considered environmentally safe. THAT IS something to consider, and we could all do a little better on that issue!!!

Hi!
i sometimes feel ashamed of spending so much money (about 20 euro a month) for hairproducts. like monica, i want to buy good products for my hair, so i can keep it long, but here in finland good hairproducts are quite expensive... on the other hand, i don`t spend much money on make-up, because i rarely use it, and i also donate money for charity. i love my long hair, i just couldn`t imagine myself with short hair, and i want to keep it healthy. but i guess i could try more natural haircare, like uzma does.