QuoteReplyTopic: Personality Traits? Posted: March 04 2005 at 9:35am
I'm curious; what do you think people who consistently wear their hair long have in common? The reason why I ask this is because Halle Berry recently said that even though she's been wearing long extensions for roles lately, she's "a short-haired person at heart." Conversely, you get people who, when they cut their hair short, grow it out right away because "it's just not me." So, what is "me"? What are the qualities that lead to our preferences?
I know that for me, there's a fair amount of rebellion involved; if I'm told to do something, I will do the opposite, and for the longest time I was told "you need to cut it," so of course my response was "no I don't." That exchange doesn't really happen so much now that I no longer live in Preppyville, but I still aesthetically prefer it long, and on a certain level it represents my stubborn streak, which has served me well in other ways even today.
Any other explanations/common personality traits?
Monica: Isn't there any way that you could look at this as flattering? I mean, she's doing this to be more like you. Rachel: Well, then, couldn't she have just copied my haircut?
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Good question. I guess the simple truth for me is, ego. There are few factors that come in play for my ego.
1- The feel of long hair on my shoulders makes me feel very feminine, and sexy. This makes me feel good about myself.
2- I "Love" the attention and looks I get from guys. I really do think men pay more attention to a gal with long hair then one with short hair.
3- It also drives many other women crazy, when they see a gal with long hair. Exspecially the strong willed feminests, that seem to be against anything feminine. Personally - I love being a girl, as the song goes. I also love being feminine.
NOW - I mean no disrespect to any one out there. All I did here is answer the question that was asked to all of us. This is just how I feel. So please do not take a nuttt.
My mom always chopped mine off short when I was a kid, so I always envied the girls with the long hair, and I noticed when the boys all wanted to spend their time with those girls (which is probably what lead me to the opinion that long hair makes people prettier). Even though I know where I probably got this idea from, it never changed my opinion.
Still waiting for mine to grow out, and I can't wait to feel pretty and girly again!
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Wow... I don't think I'm either a short or long hair person. As soon as my hair is long, I want it short and when it is short I want it long. I guess both have their pros and cons. I like long hair because you can do some real pretty stuff with it and I like short hair because of all the cute cuts you can get.
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Speaking as someone who went from very long to short a couple of months ago I can say I am definitely a "long haired" girl at heart. I've had extensions now to give me back a some length. I felt totally unglamorous and plain with short hair although strangely enough I did gain a boyfriend while my hair was short, but he doesn't mind how I have my hair. Oh well. I feel sexier with long hair and more confident, plus it may not be politically correct but I really enjoy being feminine. Other women didn't seem to like it when I had really long hair in fact it was my ex best friend who persuaded me to go short.
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I've never had short hair, and I fear change....especially if said change is not easily reversible. Drastic color changes don't bug me because I know how to fix it if I don't like it. But if I ever cut my hair, at the sloooooow rate mine grows, it would take absolutely forever to grow back.
ETA: forgot to reorder them after typing them from web. Pride - Envy - Lust - Wrath - Gluttony (which includes non-food pleasures, apparently)- Greed - Sloth
And the biggest thing for me is wanting to be something "-est". Wanting to outdo everyone I know in SOMETHING. In this case, the longest hair. I want to have the longest hair of anyone I know in person. That's probably classified as Pride then :)
I love the extreme lengths...that is, either very short or very long, because both are fairly uncommon where I live. Most people are in between chin and shoulder-blade length styles. Right now I'm working on kind of a long bohemian Joss Stone-kind of look, except auburn-colored. It's an especially fun style...the positive attention is of course enjoyable, and easy to spot in a sea full of women with medium-length hair and blonde highlights.
Cool for those women, though. Hey, as long as you like the way you look--bald, highlights, or long--go for it, eh?
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Long hair for me reflects practicality, and at this point, laziness.
I grew my hair long because 17 years ago, I couldn't afford going to
salons anymore, so I thought I would try doing the one style I had
never had before, long, and see how long it could grow. I
secretly always wanted super long hair since I was a very young
child. Once I reached my goal of 6 feet, I told myself I would
trim regularly. Heh, I haven't done it yet.
I like being extreme in this one area of my life, and when I do wear my
hair down, it's great fun receiving attention, which mostly is
quizzical and shocked, but some men can get over ardent, which I'm not
so fond of anymore. Bikers looove long hair.
I agree with Katherine, too, long hair does reflect patience.
When it does become work, which isn't too often 'cuz I wear it in updos
most of the time, it can tangle badly, which requires detangling no
matter what hour it is. Still, my husband and I have to carefully
undo each tangle, even if it's 2 AM. That's when patience kicks
in.
I really could relate to what LadyG said about having long hair. In many ways, I think it is definitely about patience but I also think it is about feeling comfortable in your own skin. When hair is worn differently there is sometimes pressure from society to conform to whatever is the most popular norm and when we have super long hair (and my hair is nowhere as long as LadyG or many here) people criticize us for not conforming. I am still told the old standbys at times...too old for long hair, it would look so much better in a shorter style...etc... blah blah blah. However, I truly feel comfortable with my hair just as it is and it doesn't ruffle me at all to hear comments. And then sometimes I do get compliments which is always very nice.
So I think people with long hair are patient but I also think that they are unique and proud of being true to who they are and what feels good for them. They don't bend to other's pressure, which I feel gives them a sense of great self esteem.
Thanks to all for great insights.
Best wishes, Karen Marie Shelton
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Part of my reason for deciding to grow my hair long is because I was tired of being mistaken for a guy. Most of my friends are guys and I tend to dress in baggy clothes (it's all I'm comfortable in) and if I ever was wearing a hat or had a hood up so you couldn't clearly see my face I'd get lots of people calling me a sir, or a guy etc.
I also love doing something with my hair. When I had short hair if I wanted it to look really nice I had to spend a lot of time and hair products to get it just right. Now it just takes two minutes and a few nice hair accesories and my hair is up in a nice bun or twist.
I also have long hair for the feminine reasons, I guess. While the rest of my clothes is baggy and black, my hair will always be done up in a nice style with something pink or purple. I suppose that my hair is my favorite part of myself and I want to make sure people see it as the beautiful part of me that it is.
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So I think people with long hair are patient but I also think that they are unique and proud of being true to who they are and what feels good for them. They don't bend to other's pressure, which I feel gives them a sense of great self esteem.
And the biggest thing for me is wanting to be something "-est". Wanting to outdo everyone I know in SOMETHING. In this case, the longest hair. I want to have the longest hair of anyone I know in person. That's probably classified as Pride then :)
I'm so glad you said that Anais, because I thought I was the only one! Whenever someone I know (in person) with long hair cuts it short, I feel like I'm one step closer to "winning" the race for the longest hair. It's really sick but like you said, it's probably a pride thing.
Aside from that, I also think it's a patience thing. Everything with my hair involves patience- growing, washing, combing, drying, detangling, etc. There are so many days that I just want to chop it off into a pixie-style cut, but I know that if I did I'd cry forever and I would know that I gave up, and I don't like to be a quitter.
This is a great thread, by the way
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How long is your hair now, Katja? I'm probably among the longest
haired-men around anywhere (but who knows how many Sikh men have me
beat? I'll never find out). Having the longest hair was
never my goal (I just haven't prevented it from continuing to grow
longer).
Ouch, Redhairedgirl! At least you learned that your ex-best friend isn't really a friend after all. A high price to pay, though.
I've long been immune to haircut pressures that others still
occasionally attempt to apply (since about one year into my "quest").
13 years since short, and it continues to inch down toward the floor.
Keep going all you long haired people! Don't bend to the masses!
Especially Dave and LG because you two have the longest hair I've ever
heard of. I think that some people just
feel more comfortable with the long haired image. Don't jump on me
people when I say business people generally have shorter hair. Having
long hair DOESN'T mean you can't be a business person but a lot of
career orientated, snappy, officey people have short, stylish cuts
which reflect their go get em personality. Long haired people tend to
be more relaxed? I mean you have to spend longer combing it and been
patient with it and if you're a rush rush person you're not going to
want to spend hours faffing around with your hair. Ok, not hours, but
you know what I mean. I think?
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If you're a longhaired person, you know that long hair takes less time to care for than short, stylish hair, and the upkeep is cheaper, too.
I think many business people see themselves as iconoclasts. The "going against the grain" thing is what they're striving for. It's kind of funny, because rebelling against long hair and getting short, trendy styles is pure conformity - how do you rebel against something that's uncommon and noninfluential?
Just looking for a few good hair slaves - is that too much to ask?
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Grace912 wrote:
my LJ
I grew my hair long because 17 years ago, I couldn't afford going to
salons anymore, so I thought I would try doing the one style I had
never had before, long, and see how long it could grow. I
secretly always wanted super long hair since I was a very young
child. Once I reached my goal of 6 feet, I told myself I would
trim regularly. Heh, I haven't done it yet. 
At least you learned that your ex-best friend isn't really a friend after all. A high price to pay, though. 
