Breast enhancement, like any body modification (like my many tattoos) are a matter of personal choice. As long as body modification is done safely, to me it isn't an issue.
If you're hoping to attract guys with your implants, you're probably going to attract the wrong kind of guy (likely a macho, shallow type who sees you as little more than a sexual object).
That's not the reason most women I know would get implants. I don't know anyone who would put theirselves through that much pain just to get more attention from the opposite sex. Anyhow, I also don't agree that the "macho,shallow" type of guy is the kind a woman with implants would most likely attract. To believe that,you'd have to believe that real breasts aren't as attractive as implants,which is shallow in itself.
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I normally wouldn't waste my time on this discussion, but as there are issues on which I feel strongly, I have to comment:
1) The idea of a girl (I'm a dude) having implants is disgusting to me. Cutting yourself open in such a private spot and putting in bags of potentially hazardous goop...blaugh. And phoney. The idea of this operation is so disgusting to me that while I think I wouldn't mind having a wife who's had a masectomy (and perhaps a few other physical flaws to boot, if she's otherwise attractive), I'd be really grossed out to have a wife who's had her breasts worked on. If you're hoping to attract guys with your implants, you're probably going to attract the wrong kind of guy (likely a macho, shallow type who sees you as little more than a sexual object).
2) I'm all for breast feeding. I don't want to pressure anyone to do it, I just want to point out that there are antibodies in breast milk that are meant to increase the chance of your child being healthy. But I agree with SuperGrover. I think kids should be weaned while still small and without a long-term memory to remember any pleasurable feelings which went with the feeding. That way, they are less likely to regret it or to later pressure you to breast feed again (I am totally against mothers giving the breast to older kids when a baby sibling is born, no matter how pretilly they beg).
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Those of us who were born males but are females. The transgender community. Transexuals appreciate the advancements in science and breast implants. Oh yes we do!!!!!!!
If I was born a woman would I have had my breasts done????? Hard to say. I don't have anything against it for natural women.
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SuperGrover, I understand how you feel. Until I had kids, the thought of nursing a child past infancy would have definitely grossed me out!
However, it is important to realize that an older child does not nurse like an infant. An infant’s only food is breastmilk, and since he has a small tummy and breastmilk is the most digestible food for him, he nurses often to replenish.
As a child grows, he gradually weans from the breast. He starts with a bite or two of solid food. Pretty soon he eats enough food to replace one nursing session. Then, it grows to two. Gradual weaning is definitely best for the bodies of babies and their mothers. Quite often, when women get severe postpartum depression, it’s because they have weaned their children unnaturally and abruptly. The severe dip in hormone levels can cause a deep depression for some women.
Also, the older the child, the less often he nurses. A three-year-old may only nurse at night while he’s lying down to sleep (it’s a wonderful way to put children to bed!). He may nurse only once a week or once a month or only once every few months. The key is that the child leads the weaning. My children weaned at very different ages. Children just have different needs, and a smart mom knows that they don’t all fit into the same mold and treats them as individuals!
Most “older” children nurse at home. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone nurse a child much past a year-and-a-half or two in public (not that there’s anything wrong with it). The advantage for an older child is that he can wait until later. Many moms have a little password they give the children which means, “We’ll nurse as soon as we get home.” With infants, you obviously cannot do that, and their needs must be fulfilled asap.
But when the gums get hard and the teeth are showing signs of coming through...that's the sign that the baby is getting ready for solid food.
Uzma – you’re right! Somewhere between six months and a year, a baby is ready to taste his first solid food. However, breastmilk is still the very best milk for him. What’s really incredible is that the composition of the milk changes as the child’s nutritional needs change. The milk a mother produces when the child is a month old is different than the milk she produces when the child is a year old! If you think about it, depriving a child of his mother’s milk only to give him milk that is meant for a cow makes no sense at all....
As for biting, if a baby bites his mother his nursing, then he isn’t doing it correctly. Unfortunately, many women don’t know how to get the baby to stop, so they abruptly wean the child which then causes far more problems than it solves. Unfortunately, the general knowledge about breastfeeding (in the US) is not adequate. Many doctors and nurses don’t know how to teach women to avoid and overcome the occasional difficulties that may arise during breastfeeding. Many women over the age of 25 were never breastfed as infants, so unfortunately, their moms can’t help either.
Here’s what I find very interesting about child raising, though. Childless adults sometimes seem to have stringent views on child raising and are the perfect parents until......they actually become parents!
;-)
I’ve been there, too. Once children arrive, one learns how much he never really knew and the unyielding boundaries are completely redefined!
ROTFL! Uzi! I had mouth full of water when I read your post, and I nearly sprayed it all over my computer!
And Gally 3d, I agree with you. Though I have nothing against people doing it... hey I'd love big boobs, too... I don't think it's something I'd ever do, and those are the reasons why. Plus a few more I hadn't known about yet.
Also, I like to keep my body natural as possible. The only thing I've done to it is pierce each ear lobe twice.
"Hair is a part of you. It is not a part of me, because I am a frog." - Kermit the Frog on Sesame Street1b/N/ii ~ ??"/27"/32"
I'm very glad you guys had few complications from your implants.. but I would never do it because of the risks..
1. Hardening of the tissue around the implant can make the breast feel rock hard 2. Sometimes this tissue can also shrink & squeeze the implant until it pops 3.the scarring from the placement of the implant may be small, but that's more scar than I'd like on my skin :) 4. Sometimes the implant can twist the muscle around it. talk about PAIN! 5. There are all kinds of issues with leaks/bursts. most of them aren't life-threatening, but just the thought of it is icky to me 6. It doesn't matter what kind you get, they won't look %100 natural. I can pretty much tell by looking that a woman has had implants. There are even fashion trends based on the un-natural effects of implants (*ahem*undercleavage*ahem*) 7. Even implants age with time.. and wear/shift/cause more complications. 8. The risk of getting a BAD boob job from the start is scary as well. The "breasts too far apart" or "cross-eyed nipple" looks are frightening to me, as are the nipple stretching that can sometimes occur with implants. 9. Surgery in general is dangerous. You can die on the table. O_O 10. Most importantly to me... the type of guy I am interested in can be intimidated by large breasts. ^_^ Assuming that a change like that will make you more attractive can be a big mistake. Sometimes you have to ask.. more attractive to WHOM?
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Seriously, I do believe that breasts provide the perfect nutrition for children. But when the gums get hard and the teeth are showing signs of coming through...that's the sign that the baby is getting ready for solid food.
I could care less what the "organizations" say on this one.
OK, this is kind of getting off topic, but oh well.
I can't imagine having a 4 year old still breast feeding in our society! Maybe in other cultures that would work... It makes perfect sense in cultures where food is scarce.
But honestly. We're talking about us here, who live in a society with computers and automobiles and Rice a Roni. If you're out of diapers, you should be eating solid food. You should be in preschool!
4 year olds are old enough to have memories of their experiences in later life. No one should have memories of breast feeding!
"Hair is a part of you. It is not a part of me, because I am a frog." - Kermit the Frog on Sesame Street1b/N/ii ~ ??"/27"/32"
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nd your source of information would be............the La Leche League?
No, the World Health Organization! I can't find the direct link from the WHO website, but it's referenced below.
Also, a medical journal -- see below:
The World Health Organization (WHO) reports that, around the world, the average age of complete weaning (defined as the total cessation of breastfeeding) exceeds 4 years! In Breastfeeding, A Guide for Medical Professionals (1985), Ruth A. Lawrence puts this figure at 4.2 years.
The good news is that rates are increasing in the United States, which is excellent news for all of us. Healthier babies grow into healthier, more productive adults. And on a financial level, that only has to help health insurance rates, instead of madly driving them up!
Hal, where did you get that impression? As I understand it, they simply advocate natural weaning. By the way, did you know that the world wide average age for weaning from the breast is four years of age? I have no idea how it started, but Americans have been taught that they shouldn't nurse past infancy. We're kind of prudish with our bodies. After all, breasts were designed for children, you know!
And your source of information would be............the La Leche League?
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Hi girls, I had mine done twice. I used to be a model for lingerie so it was better for my work and then I met my husband who literally fell in love with my "twins" and I had them done again (bigger) after giving birth to our son. My husband is the happiest man (so he says) in the world, he loves them..... I have the scars on the nipple and they are saline... I had them done in Paris where I used to live and the surgeon comes on TV regularly: Dr OHANA. By the way how much did you pay for it? I paid 22000 F (4500$) twice!! But hey.......that was a good investment, believe me!!
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Sort of changing the subject here but to answer the question about getting implants after a reduction, I have a friend who did that. She had the reduction, didn't like being smaller and had impants--twice. Managed to breast feed her baby and no problems so far.
Not that I advocate implants, I don't. I worked in a hospital where lots of plastic surgeons operated and the number of complications who came in were much greater than the ones who came in for the implants. Nothing beautywise is worth risking your health like that.
"It is better to look marvelous than to feel marvelous" Billy Crystal
>>>>>if American women are so unhealthy, why is our life expectancy now 80 years?
Technology keeps us alive practically forever. That's great in many instances, but if I'm 90 years old and all my organs are failing, I'd really rather not be kept alive by a machine.
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>>>>i was in ICU back then mothers couldn't go in.
Yeah, things were fairly primitive back then (today, doctors realize that a preemie's mother's milk and her arms are actually more valuable than some of the technology they to help save the babies; that's why a lot of hospitals accept volunteers as "baby holders" -- literally!). I've never given birth in a medical setting; my kids were born at home.
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