Scared of cutting hair?

Blondee, I hope you don't think I'm being condescending toward you. I respect and enjoy differences. Some people are addicted to change, and my youngest daughter is like you in that regard.

With respect to hair, I think an "empowering" or "confident" style is one which makes a woman feel her best, whether that be short, medium or long. Just as a cut might recharge a woman's batteries, so too might a lengthening or coloring in some instances.

I feel very strongly that b/c of the time investment in growing one's hair long, a true friend should not sow seeds of doubt about that choice. If someone is convinced that she should grow out a pixie or bob, one can return to that style in mere moments if the new length becomes undesired. Not so with long hair. One thing that breaks my heart is to hear a woman's regrets about shearing her beautiful hair. So many times it is a case of that woman being worn down by friends or family. Cordially, Bob

Now you've made this thread really interesting, Blondee.

I think that in Western society, it takes courage rather than fear (esp. after 35) to wear one's hair long. I know many women who have told me that they would like to grow their hair but think they are too old or some such thing. I always urge them to go for it. I've noticed that professional women in particular prefer to blend in with the crowd. Virtually all of them have coiffed hair, and to my thinking, many of them are "hiding behind their hair". Many of them crave long hair, but fear the catty remarks which may come their way if they break the accepted mold. I admit that cutting one's long hair can take courage sometimes, but if a woman loves her hair, a short cut is pointless at any age or in any profession. Best, Bob

Disagreements do in fact make the world go round.  I think long hair can be so beautiful, but don't personally find myself attracted to people with long hair. 

Still, I agree with the others - take it slow, possibly try the feye... what can it hurt?

Bob S wrote: Is it possible that you are reluctant b/c your hair is extremely beautiful now, and part of you eschews going to a shorter length which will blend you into the crowd? Some people enjoy standing apart. I agree with eKatherine that a small trim should be considered first. Sometimes a small change is all it takes to renew one's enthusiasm. Good luck! Bob

Bob, she said that her hair is frizzy and dry.  How is that beautiful?  I also resent that you think her shorter cut will "blend her into the crowd".  So what?  A person doesn't need hair down to their butt to stand out.  Sad that you think so though.