Having the patience to wait

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I am new to these boards but have read absolutely loads of your posts, most of them I can relate too, especially those of you who have had hair disasters and now feel depressed , unattractive, dowdy and insecure. I think that all the help, advice and support that you all give to each other is wonderful and it is incredible that one can feel so sad for someone who they have never met before, but we do,  because we all have one thing in common......hair disasters. I completely agree with many of the posts i've read on these boards but certain ones stick in my mind. The post from a lady who believes that she is addicted to hair dye, she has to exercise extreme self control when walking past hair colour products in the shop...even though, she has already had so many disasters.......I can relate to that....I have to battle with self control in that area of the supermarket too.  Why do we mess with our hair? Well, simple really.....because we want to improve ourselves,  we buy the product, can't wait to use it, and we have this image in our mind that we are going to look like the pretty girl on the products box. We forget that she has had her colour applied by a professional and that she probabley doesn't have years of other products already on her hair. So we do the deed and it all goes horribly wrong!! Think about it....we must have been feeling a little unhappy in the first place or we probabley wouldn't have bought it, and now its gone wrong we feel doubley depressed because we bought it in the first place to make us feel better and now we feel worse than ever. Somewhere along the line, the manufacturers should take some responsability. I know they supply information on the box and a leaflet inside the box but the information is not extensive enough. They still lead you to believe that its all very easy and that your hair will be left in beautiful condition and looking just the way you want it...without any professional help. I know they have advice lines ect. but I for one have never bothered asking for their opinion first because I've already paid for the item and I'm GONNA use it no matter what. Lets face it, if I phone them and tell them that I have been using bleach for about 15 years and I have so many products in my hair that I can't even remember half their names...its obvious that their advice is gonna be 'don't use it', We know that-thats why we don't ask!!  I wonder if they realise how traumatic it is for a person when these hair disasters occur. Over the years, I've been to the point where I have felt so ugly due to bad hair that I've concidered suicide.......that's how bad it gets for some of us. I did read another extremely good post on here by a lady who put everything into perspective when she said ' its not a scar that you have for life, its your hair and it will grow back again'.  What a wonderful thing to say. I was diagnosed with cancer back in 2001 and would have only had 6 months to live if my tumour had not be operable.... I still didn't feel as bad as I feel when my hair is bad and I think that is pretty incredible. If your hair is bad at the moment, think of what that nice lady said, its not a scar that you'l have for life...its hair which will grow back. I know that its no concillation when you feel low and you feel that you look awful but in most cases there is a solution somewhere to improve the situation, maybe you won't get exactly what you wanted but it can usually be improved upon. The advice from you lovely people on here is invaluable and its the first place that I would recommend anyone go with their hair problems. A big THANK YOU too all of you.