lost friendship b/c hair mistake

Has anyone ever lost a friendship because your friend colored your hair and it turned out bad?  One of my best friends is a hairdresser and offered to highlight my hair.  Well it turned out bad and when she fixed it - it only made it worse.  I am so upset about the damage (all splits and breakage)  My hair was sooo healthly before & when ever anyone asked me what my favorite feature was I would say my hair.  I don't think I can remain friends with her anymore, because when I see her I can't stop thinking how she wrecked my hair.  Is this worth loosing a friendship over?  She even had the nerve to tell me she is "frankly tired of hearing about my hair problems" I am willing to end the friendship - what do you think?

I know how hard it is to have your hair damaged! After a hairdresser destroyed my hair I stopped going to all hairdressers, no one but my dad gets near my hair with a pair of scissors now. I can understand how you must feel towards your friend, are you sure you made it clear to her? If she acts badly, maybe she's just really ashamed and doesn't know how to act about it?? That is a quite common reaction, trying to through it around. I think you should have a good long talk with her and if she continues to act like a bitch, tell her so and that you want to end the friendship. Just make sure you give her a fair chance, the absolute worst thing you can do is just stop talking to her so that she doesn't get a propper chance to explain. That too happened to me and I still don't know what I did wrong! Good luck!

Thanks for the replys pampinetta and missrini.  I have talked to my friend about it and she has kind of blown me off with her answers as to why it happened. Here is the story - I had a really wonderful hairdresser who moved to a city 1 hour away.  I continued going to her for the first year after she moved, but then it got to be too much of a hassle, so I started going to another girl at the same salon my old one worked at.  She was great, but the she went on vacation to europe for 2 months.  So I was debating on driving the hour to go see Julile ( old hairdresser)  when my friend Rose told me she wanted to do my hair.  She has been asking me to let her do my hair for years, but I am very particular and didn't want to mix friendship with hair, incase I didn't like what she did.  Well I know it kind of offended her that alot of our friends would say "why doesn't Rose do your hair"  and I would just say because I am very picky and I already have a good hairdresser... so I finally decided to give her a chance, because she was bugging me about it so much.  I wanted a root touch up on my blonde hightlights and some lowlights as well.  Another stylist asked her if Rose wanted help and started applying a filler on the areas that were to get the dark lowlights.  (my old stylist NEVER did that)  anyway, Rose wasn't paying attention and the girl who was helping put filler in too many places and hence non of my hightlights came out!  THe result was blackish brown hair with little blondish gray strips of highlights and I looked like Elvira.  Well Rose went away for 6 days and when she came back, she put foil hightlights on top of the mostly black lowlights and the color came out this horrible bland blonde and now I have soo much damage. My hair used to be a beautiful blond much like Jessica Simpson's.

When I asked her what went wrong - she said that I kind of wanted a makeover and that's what happens to hair when you do that much to it.  Well, we never would have had to put my hair through all that if she friggin knew what she was doing.  And I didn't want a makeover - I even brought pictures from when I had lowlights in my hair.

So anyway,  we have talked about it like 5 times and each time she gives the impression that it was my fault because I wanted something different, but says she is sorry.  Well I guess I won't end the friendship but I don't want to talk to her for a few weeks.  I think I will just not call her and if she wants to talk she can call me.  I really can't be around her for a while.  THis whole thing has caused arguments with my boyfriend because he thinks I am overreacting and self centered about my hair.  I can't even cry to him because he thinks I am being a baby. I know that there are real tragedys in life and its just hair but I can't stop thinking about it.   It has been almost 4 weeks and I am making the trip to London to see Julie on Tuesday to see what she can do with the color and how much needs to be cut off.  I will post some pictures if anyone replys with interest.

Thanks so much for listening!  I hope to hear from you soon!