QuoteReplyTopic: Salonist told me to stop co washing? Posted: April 11 2006 at 5:15pm
Should i listen i mean my mom told her about it and she told her to tell me im not a white blonde and i cant just go around throwing conditioner in my hair... i told her thats not what i do. The night before i wash my hair i put a deep conditioner in and let it soak in over night,rinse my hair ,and then go about my shampooing regimine..... she said it was too much manipulation but i dont know my hair comes out soft and managable when i do it should i listen to her?
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I can't believe that even hairdressers think that conditioning hair is only for white people. What does she think we have? Synthetic hair? I wouldn't feel very confident with a hairdresser who makes remarks like that.
Just ignore her and carry on as you are. You are seeing the results in your hair and that is all that matters. Remember, talk is cheap and no one who really knows their stuff about hair would agree with her.
ITA with R2D,, that sounds truly ignorant to me,, find
another hair stylist FAST!!! ( I wouldnt trust that stylist
to lay her pinkie finger in my hair)
Hair type: 3b some c?, fine strands, last relaxer sept 05, never again!!! current :ap length on sides,,nearly bsl in back, damn those old frazzled ends! I am hair OBSESSED
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Twinkle... don't listen to what they say, listen to your hair!!! If you are getting good results, keep it up!
As far as your stylist, you may not be in a position to change if your Mom takes you, so just be very clear about what you want from her...don't seem unsure, cause then she might think she knows better than you. She may know hair, but she doesn'y know YOUR hair!
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Twinkle -like everyone says that advice sounds offish - I agree with you all . This is exactly why i stopped going to the hairdresser for washing/ treatments years ago because of comments like this. I wash and deep condition my own hair and trust myself because at least any comments i make about my hair come from my mouth and i know the real deal about my hair. If it works for you and your hair is flourishing ,, then you go on and 'manipulate'.
I learned more about hair care from the forum than all those hairdressers i 've been too over the years.
To be honest i got a phobia about going the hairdressers now because my hair and scalp is in better condition since i''ve been doing it myself ( I go with my clean/conditioned hair to a friend of mine who does conrow if i choose to )
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why would she say that i should stop i dont understand...she claims that co washing makes my hair poofy...i was like uhhh so it gets poofy whenever i air dry it i just flat iron it to calm it down
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I'm not sure what 'poofy'means but i guessing this means 'fuffly flyaway' hair . All i can say again if if works for your hair and it comes out fine and without any problems then don't worry Twinkle about this comment . This comment hardly sounds like the authority over your hair . Sometimes people will say things about our hair that we just don't understand ( and where exactly they are really coming from!)
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Should i listen i mean my mom told her about it and she told her to tell me im not a white blonde and i cant just go around throwing conditioner in my hair... i told her thats not what i do. The night before i wash my hair i put a deep conditioner in and let it soak in over night,rinse my hair ,and then go about my shampooing regimine..... she said it was too much manipulation but i dont know my hair comes out soft and managable when i do it should i listen to her?
I would only stop if your hair is making a turn for the worse. If you see improvement, then why stop?
You want bad hairdresser's advice? I had one tell me that I needed to come to him every week for a wash because my scalp was practically falling apart and he thought I wasn't washing my hair. So I would have been paying for a wash, cap dryer, heat styling and whatever goop he used on my scalp every week, on top of what he charged for a relaxer every six weeks. The problem wasn't that I wasn't washing my hair, it was that I had eczema. I never took his advice. I'm glad I didn't.
Want more? I had a hairdresser tell me that olive oil and brushing was fanstatic for hair. While I've no doubt that it is, her hair was short and natural. Mine is relaxed, and olive oil made it insanely brittle, so I was too afraid to brush. I didn't bother to start trying, either. I stuck with sweet almond and jojoba, and my hair has loved me for it.
Bottom line? Stick with what works for YOUR hair. Your hairdresser probably means well, but she doesn't know everything. And by the way, what does HER hair look like?
Make every day you have count, before the time comes for you to count every day you have.
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lol @ sugar ...her hair is cropped short and is naturally curl she doesnt even need a relaxer really she could go with blowing it out straight if she wanted
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I'm scared of any hair dresser that is willing to slap a relaxer in every client's head without examining if they really need one. I should have never gotten a relaxer in my youth! My hair was fine, a blow out is all I needed.
Is there not a beauty school teaching these less conventional methods? Oh, of course not, then stylist wouldn't make money.
I don't think that conditioning is the problem. Our hair craves moisture and it's kind of hard to overmoisturize unless you use protein moisturizers all the time, which would harden the hair. But even in her ignorance, the hairstylist has a bit of a point. I tried co-washing because I read about it in a forum. I thought, Wow, I can actually do this and not have to apply heat by blowdrying or sitting under a hooded dryer twice or three times a week (I work out regularly). Well, affter 3 weeks of doing that, my relaxer was GONE and I had to rely on wigs and bandanas to make it through to the next touch-up! My hair in its natural state is very curly and tight. I'm thinking all of you who do it successfully must have a fairly soft natural hair texture to start with. Now I'm back to the same old dilemna. I'm aware that applying that much heat on my hair is damaging but I don't see what else to do unless I stop working out altogether... I don't know what to choose: a toned body or beautiful hair!
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I'm scared of any hair dresser that is willing to slap a relaxer in every client's head without examining if they really need one.
Oh my goodness! I thought I was the only one who had that type of stylist: I-don't-care-if-your-hair-is-fine-I'll-just-use-SUPER-call-me-over-to-neutralize-the-sodium-hydroxide-when-your-stratum-corneum-is-partially-dissolved.
Most hair stylists... are simply hair STYLISTS. Many of them
never bothered to learn how to truly TREAT our hair. Also many of
them still subscribe to all of the myths that plague black women
today...Girl, run. Run fast. Hope it doesn't cause any
problems with your mom though, cause for some family members, changing
hair dressers is a sensitive topic.
If it works for you and your hair loves it then keep on doing it!! Some stylists get so mad when you tell them that your taking care of your hair because they feel threatened. And some just say the stupidest things ever
sounds like she's just trying to keep you from learning how to take care of your hair by treating it your self and keep you relying on her advice and services.
some stylists where i live have been known to give women bad advice to their clients that they knew wasn't the best so that their clients could rely just on them for hair care.
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TwinkletOes23 wrote:
...her hair is cropped short and is naturally curl she doesnt even need a relaxer really she could go with blowing it out straight if she wanted
My hair was fine, a blow out is all I needed.
Oh, of course not, then stylist wouldn't make money. 
I'm in!
