QuoteReplyTopic: feeling dissatisfied... Posted: August 11 2007 at 9:16pm
I've been feeling very unsatisfied with my hair lately. With my whole self really. I feel the need to change... the way I do my hair, the way I do my make-up, the color I paint my toe nails, etc. I want to start wearing contacts again and ditch the glasses, but I've been having major allergy issues so I can't.
Now that my hair is just centimeters short of my long-term goal, I suddenly feel that it draws too much attention. It's always the focal point. I love my length, but..... Nobody ever compliments me on my smile or my eyes anymore, for example. I used to get complimented on my smile more than anything. I miss that. Also, I suddenly find myself longing for straight hair. I haven't done that in years! I want a different bangs style too, but nothing else looks good on me.
I'm sure it's just a phase. I'm afraid to do anything major to my hair because I'm sure I'll regret it later. A sure indication is that I've been doing my bangs the same way for about 3 or 4 years, so I trimmed them up a bit different this time, hoping it would help with the dissatisfaction. I hate them now. I just want to grow them out completely. (doesn't really look bad, just not happy with it) If I wasn't afraid of hating it later and just having to live with it, I'd dye it. But I know it's not a good idea to make big changes when in this sort of mood.
I'm sorry for venting. I guess I just need some support and y'all are the greatest for that!
Hey, Sarah! Maybe I'm not the one who should comment, b/c hairstyle is the first thing I notice about *every* woman. I enjoy all other facets as well, esp. interesting faces, gaits and voices. If the hair is hot, life is good, and any other flaws are diminished, in my world!
Anyway, what I suggest is that you double your braid or put it up for the next month or so. That way, people will be more apt to notice other facets of *you* first. (Not me, but I think I'm atypical.) More importantly, you will be giving yourself a break. You'd only have to think about it when you were fixing it. You could focus your attention on new makeup and toenail colors if you wish.
What I think you need is your *own* WOW about yourself. And since dealing with hair every day has made it somewhat mundane in your life, I think that going without it long for weeks on end will give you a real high when fall comes and the length is fresh again.
Remember, Sarah, everyone feels a little blue sometimes, even for extended periods. It's the human condition. But the wise person retains the inkling that better days are coming, and that drastic decisions, hair or otherwise, are best procrastinated. God Bless, Bob
Becoming involved in new volunteer work, even for an hour or two per week, may be refreshing and rewarding for you. Hugs, Bob
Edited by Bob S - August 12 2007 at 2:02pm
SugarCube
Members Profile
Send Private Message
Find Members Posts
Add to Buddy List
Junior Member
Joined: July 24 2006
Location: United States
Status: Offline
Points: 339
yea i agree with Bob but i think a side pony is ultra cute eps with LONG curly hair and yea Sarah everyone has those blue days... trust me i once did something because of and emotional low and i have regretted it ever since..... it'll be okay but in the meantime please feel free to vent... better out than in...... hth :]]...... oh and i loveee your hair i wud honestly kill for your hair and just bc noones commenting on yur other features doesn't mean they don't notice them ....... hope you feel better soon
Alisa06
Members Profile
Send Private Message
Find Members Posts
Add to Buddy List
Junior Member
Joined: November 13 2006
Location: United States
Status: Offline
Points: 496
I agree, try putting it up more, maybe growing your bangs out.Try styling it to were you don't have to think about it.
Just remember how long you have worked to get this far, and just how close you are. Soooo many women ( and men for that matter) would give an arm and a leg for half of your hair. I have seen alot of women lately with horribly thin hair, and it has humbled me, and made me appreciate what God has given me. Not that you need to be humbled, but just remember how fortunate you are.
Hopefully this will pass soon, and the cloud will lift. Until then,keep your head up and eyes on the future. Before you know it, you will have reached your goal, and everyone around you will be green with envy. But not just because of your hair, but because the dedication, and strength it takes to get where you are takes the kind of person that can achieve anything she puts her mind to, and that satisfaction, will give you a glow that will light up any room.
Alisa06
2c-3a ciii
I want my hair back!!!
tomorrowperfume
Members Profile
Send Private Message
Find Members Posts
Add to Buddy List
Newbie
Joined: July 31 2007
Location: United States
Status: Offline
Points: 17
Sounds like a case of general same-style blues. Change helps spice up your life... but you don't need a drastic change to get drastic results. Maybe something like an accessory can do the trick - maybe one of those cute, sophisticated little black headbands or a barrette might do it. I'm so jealous of your beautiful curly hair, but if you're thinking about going straight, just try it out for a little while and see if you like it. It was this boredom with one particular style that led me to chop 20 inches off of my hair three years ago, and I regret it even now. Just wait it out and see how it feels to finally acheive your goal length!
You guys are all so sweet! Thanks for your words of encouragement. Alisa, yours were especially touching (about the strength and dedication for achieving goals). SugarCube, you're right... just because it's not mentioned doesn't mean it's not noticed. Thanks for reminding me. Bob, I think I'll take your advice and wear my hair up every single day for a while. I normally wear it up at work, but leave it down at home most of the time. Tomorrowperfume, I think I'll start wearing some of my more fancy hair accessories to work, instead of the plain ones all the time.
A few days ago I decided to do what any girl does to feel better.... I went shopping! I got a new shirt that's a style I've never worn before, and I got a couple new fun colors of nail polish that I've never used before. I wore the shirt to church yesterday. It's funny.... I got soooooo many compliments on it! (and on my silver toe nails too, lol) So I was already feeling pretty great, and then I ran into wal-mart on the way home last night and this guy I've never seen before starts talking to me as we're both looking at the same thing. After a few minutes of general conversation about which brand of crackers I prefer and how long I've lived in this town and the lack of local entertainment (small town, rural area).... he procedes to tell me that he thinks I'm beautiful and he would like to take me out sometime. That's what he said... "you are a very beautiful woman." No mention of my hair at all (and it was down!). It was refreshing.
lolz hahahaha thats AWESOME hairbraider!!!!!!!!!!! i'm with 123 ( btw haven't seen u ina while ) did u take him up on his offer... was he cute.... sry i'm SUCH a gabber when it comes 2 guys lolz
lol... I got to thinking later that I should've added this as a p.s. No. I thanked him for the compliments and told him I'd have to refuse because I wasn't interested in getting into a relationship right now. He was very impressive though. Tall, black hair, well-dressed, so respectful and polite. It wasn't the kind of situation where you'd say he was "hitting on" me. It was definitely an ego boost.
(Big Smile)!!! I am glad to hear you are starting to feel better. IMO there is nothing better to help boost your mood than to pamper yourself. Silver toes sounds really fun!I have been weary a wine color that I just love!!! Isn't it great to get noticed like that! Even though you are not interested, ( in my case married) it sure makes you feel awesome!
Speaking of hair accesories, I am thinking about getting a new set of hairsticks. I have one that is a very light wood, but would like to add to my collcection... I got some clips that have rhinestones in them. I put them on the front kind of on the side of my head to hold my hair back. I have never worn somthing like this before, and I love it. Just a simple touch to add a whole new feel....Just a thought
Sounds like you've perked up already! Whether you're interested or not, the guy sounds hot! Lucky you!
If you still feel like changing things and want to do the contacts, there's this great eye drop out now I don't know how I could live without! Opcon A, you can get it for about 5 bucks at walmart or drugstores. Its an antihistamine eye drop. (You don't use it while your contacts are in, so you can even try and see if it helps before you decide to buy contacts.) I just use it once before bed and my allergy related eye problems are much better the whole next day. I don't use it every night, but I can see a difference when I don't if the allergies get bad.
Edited to say: Geez, sorry I sound like a commercial, there are so few products I've found so useful I guess I appreciate the good cheap ones!
Edited by Susan W - August 15 2007 at 7:20am
Making metal barettes/concord clips hair safe, long hair style how to: http://alonghair.wordpress.com
Thanks for the tip Susan! I'll have to try that (I already have contacts, just haven't been able to wear them in a while).
Yes, my mood has perked up, but still not completely feeling like myself. I got moved to a different spot in the office temporarily for a specific task. That has helped too because the people I'm around now are more talkative and cheerful so I don't sit quietly obsorbed in my own thoughts.
HAIRBRAIDER!!!! I love, love, love your hair. I wish my hair was that long. Glad you are a bit more chipper though. I go through slumps like that from time to time, but I always bounce back better than ever. I have a feeling you will too.
Thanks Kimbearly! I love your sig, by the way. I think that's been my problem. I kinda hit one of those falling-on-your-face times, but I'm beginning to see that I have moved forward because of it.
Hairbraider--glad you are feeling better about things. I know how you were feeling! In the past, I would get a drastic haircut about once very four years, when it was just about BSL. Of course, within a week or so, I would hate it. This year, finding the board actually stopped me from making yet another hair mistake! By the way, I like the new userpic--very nice!
Tani-lai, thank you. I don't think I'll ever do a drastic cut. I'm too attached (so to speak) to my long hair. Although I have thought about a rather large trim to make the ends really thick.
I'm glad you like the pic. I'll soon be posting new length pics on my site! I finally got around to taking some. I finally just did it myself using the delay thing on the digital camera. And as you can see, it's in the house not outside so they're not that great, but oh well. I'll let y'all know when they're up.
Well, I wore my hair down yesterday for the first time in almost 3 weeks. (it would've been 3 weeks tomorrow) The only reason was that I got a terrible catch in my back and simply couldn't put it up. I plan to keep on wearing it up still for a while though.
Seriously, it's been driving me crazy to have it up constantly every day. (This has kinda reinforced my idea that I could never grow it so long that it's impractical to wear it down.) The only time I've been leaving it down is while it's drying. It seems to have helped at least some. I appreciate it more when it's down. And I've gotten a little more creative again in styling it. I think that has helped alot in itself. I'm hoping to wear it up enough that people start noticing other things about me instead of just my hair. I'm not fishing for compliments or anything, I just want to feel like it's not all about my hair.
Hey Sarah, sorry to hear you've been feeling blue lately, I am not immune to the condition (I have been feeling a bit that way lately too). From what I can tell of your avatar photo, small though it is, you appear to have a pretty face. I think most people notice all of your other lovely features as well, when they see you... but commenting on your hair is "easy" because its wonderful state of being is attributable to your actions (whereas your face and eyes, etc, are "God-given"). Hugs,
You cannot post new topics in this forum You cannot reply to topics in this forum You cannot delete your posts in this forum You cannot edit your posts in this forum You cannot create polls in this forum You cannot vote in polls in this forum
Topic Options
Post Options
Thanks(0)
I enjoy all other facets as well, esp. interesting faces, gaits and voices. If the hair is hot, life is good, and any other flaws are diminished, in my world!
hope you feel better soon
(Big Smile)!!! I am glad to hear you are starting to feel better. IMO there is nothing better to help boost your mood than to pamper yourself. Silver toes sounds really fun!I have been weary a wine color that I just love!!! Isn't it great to get noticed like that! Even though you are not interested, ( in my case married) it sure makes you feel awesome!
I finally got around to taking some. I finally just did it myself using the delay thing on the digital camera. And as you can see, it's in the house not outside so they're not that great, but oh well. I'll let y'all know when they're up.
