feeling dissatisfied...

     If I can take a stab here, Sarah, I think that in life we must try to accept God's gifts and enjoy them. Everyone's is different. The fact is that a beautiful woman does not *deserve* to be better looking than others; it just is. But I've seen so many less than average lookers put themselves together in a way that makes them very appealing. A good attitude is at least as sexy as looks to me.   

     My youngest DD has a voice so stunning, and looks to match, that she nearly made American Idol this year at 19. She struggles with the fact that she has so much talent, and has difficulty accepting that it's real. And yes, she feels somewhat guilty, irrational though it may be. My advice to her, and you, is to use your gifts not only for your own pleasure, but for the enrichment of others. And, of course, for the glory of our Maker. I hope this makes some sense. Love, Bob

     I've often wondered, though, what women who normally wear their locks like Jaime Leigh Curtis do to symbolically get rid of the "baggage" and forge a new beginning. (lol) I hope you've been feeling better of late. Hugs, Bob

     P.S. One of the dearest women, and clearly the finest writer among those I've enjoyed on long hair boards, Celuriel, stated once, if I can clumsily paraphrase, "Charity comes in many forms." She had been accosted by someone who thought she should donate her knee-length hair to "the children", and she mused about how much joy her long braid  actually brought to both kids and older folks presently. Thus, she was rather annoyed that someone would presume that she wasn't doing *enough*.