Women Suddenly Cutting their hair short

My mother was shorthaired and my grandmother was longhaired and usually wore it up in a bun or twist. I liked my grandmother's personality a heck of a lot better than I liked my mother's. So I have always naturally gravitated towards women with long hair who put it up.  That has been true as to the women I have selected for dates and from whom I have accepted invitations for dates and my two marriages. There are many women who take pride in growing, caring for, and styling their long hair, and those are the women most compatible with me. I fully realize that others have different tastes--there are women who like their hair short and men who like shorthaired women. They're made for each other just as long haired women were made for me. For every Jack there is a Jill. Women of course have a right to whatever hair lenght and style they choose just as men have a right to select whatever women they choose for companionship and/or marriage.

Having kids has everything to do with it.When you have a baby you dont have time to fuss over long hair,your lucky if you can get in a shower.

What a load of horsesh*t, honestly. I know several single mothers who not only have time to have long hair, but dye it pretty colours, dress in interesting clothes, etc. Babies are obviously hard work but you do not spend every waking minute doing nothing but staring at them to make sure they don't explode. And couldn't you wash/comb/trim your hair while watching a baby?

Alright, not everyone is like that, but the fact that many people can do several "Pretty" measures and still be GREAT mothers says a lot. Long hair isn't that hard to keep at all. I've had long hair and short hair. I prefer how short hair looks, but it's only slightly easier to take care of; you have to style short hair, whereas long hair looks interesting from the get go.

The issue here isn't that it's in any way difficult to have long hair and be a mother, but that you seem to believe it is more mature to accept the mundane route through a landmark "growing up" situation.

I have no problem if it IS what someone wants. I have short hair, and there was no reason for someone in my situation to want it because of any other reason than I wanted.

However, you keep bringing up a rather invalid reason as to why you have short hair. You seem to think that "because" you have kids you "shoul" have short hair.

I only cut my own hair short because it needed it because it was damaged.

That's the second time you've switched your position.

I think you have alot of really negative comments that are un-nessacary and rude.

Or maybe comments people don't want to hear? You can't be sheltered all your life.

This is a debate on why women cut their hair short when they get older. Debates can get heated. If you can't take it, then you can leave the topic. I may have aggressive tactics but my methods are still technically valid.

People can do whatever they want to their hair and dont need you telling them they are doing it because they are trendy and brainwashed.

Do you not see the contradiction there? If people are following trends or being subtly controlled otherwise, how is what they want?

Statistics are the key here. It statistically isn't possible that so many women can suddenly make the choice to cut their hair. That's not what a "choice" is. It indicates a presence of a bias factor. Please read up on basic probability before making such statements.

Listen, I really, REALLY despise faux-maturity; the idea that people should get duller with age "just because". To me, it is a disgusting and uttely pretentious concept that only harms people horribly. It is something I will never be friendly in the face with. If you think I'm being "Mean" to you, then please accept that I do not believe in sheltering people, nor do I think it's appropriate when it's quite blatant how easily people are controlled with such throwaway notions.


Edited by Rosalie - March 11 2007 at 5:24pm

What does cutting your hair short have to do with kids?

Also, if you DID cut it because it's trendy, you wouldn't admit it, more than likely. It's the only "I'm not brainwashed!" paradox.

Tell us how you really feel...

This is a great question that I don't know if there is any one answer. My wife did it as did a many clients over the years. My wife did it because she was done dealing with it. She would have it in a pony tail almost everyday in the summer. She felt alot cooler with her hair off her neck and out of her face. One day she came into our shop with her sister for a vist and she asked me since I was not busy wolud I cut her hair short and she never went past her collar since. Thats been 18 years. As far as others I had many clients have reasons that are normal and some that are way out there. Families talke alot of time away and lots of mothers usually end up going for a care free haircut. I had many have it cut for for locks of love and I admire that. For what ever reason someone gets a short cut I am sure it's a great one.There are times I wish my wife would grow her hair. One time I refused to cut her hair short and she went to my freinds shop and did it anyway.

Edited by mikecuts - February 12 2007 at 8:55pm

In medievil times young maidens had long hair to show they were free and single. Married women would keep their hair covered in public so another man could not see it. The only ladies with short hair were considered prostitues.

My wife has had five haircut in 35 years of marriage. About ever 7 years she get an itch to go from long to pixie or shoulder or what ever. She just wants a change. Cannot blame her it is her hair and her choice. She always grows it back long to cut and sell or donate her hair.Longest hair was in 1979 9'3" cut to 3" because I was away with Special Forces training and she was pregnant and had no body to help her take care of her hair so she cut it off for$1,200. Change is sexy

I'd make a prenup that husband is banned from going over a certain weight.

Is Beeper allowed to cut her hair as long as it's over a certain length? It looks like it's cut.

Before we got married ten years ago, my wife and I wrote a prenuptial agreement that included a provision that my wife, Beeper, would not ever cut her hair. She is a person of great integrity and has kept her promise, and we are very happily married.  You can view her on her website at www.beeperchick.com.  

I think the media and what we see in image and print effects both men and woman.

Those who are able to think freely without outside suggestion and influence in my opnion in the long run ( no pun intended) wind up as happier more well rounded settled people.

And that goes both ways. I think a person who finds him/ or herself more comfortable in their own skin with short hair should listen to their  own mind and not others. Just as people who prefer long hair on themselves do not feel themselves of conifdent with short hair.

I think the danger really falls in the notion that people think they are making choices in having short or long hair because they think that's what they want, when in reality they are constantly being bombarded with images in the media by popular stars and unsolicited opinions by peer's, family and co-workers. Eventaully these opinions and suggestions seep into the subconcious mind.

In those cases you see a person cutting their hair and instantly regretting it in some cases. On the other hand if a person is outside influenced subconciously to grow their hair, they will quickly learn whether or not they are doing it because that's what they really want with thier own mind or are just being subconciously programmed by others suggestions and images in the media to grow it. Because if they are just being influenced to grow their hair, after a peroid of time they will realize they arent doing it for themselves and stop and go back to the length of hsir they like for themselves the most. It only takes several seconds to cut your hair off but takes months and patience to grow yout hair out.

That is why when society and others are influencing you or suggesting you to cut you hair short it is far more dangerous to your ablity to control your own looks and actions because if you do not think things through and really want to do it for yourself you can quickly realize what you thought were your own thoughts were someone elses.

Edited by DarkHelmet