I just got hair trim and..........

Today I got my hair trim and the hairstylist made me fell awful she told me that nmy hair was damaged and I need to take better car of it. I have been doing that for 4 mo. and I my hair has not been falling out and I also wear protective hairstyles and I use absolutely no heat. She als said that I need a perm but I am in the process of repairing my hair from being damage I thought I saw posite signs but we she told me all this negative stuff I am now thinking of just cutting all of my hair off. Note she was chinese. I need some suggestions please

I would find a new stylist QUICK. She said that you "NEED" a perm? How dare she? You don't NEED a perm at all, especially if you're trying to grow it out and transition. The rest of what she said isn't even important to me.

You don't need a perm, she just needs you to get one so she doesn't have to deal with kinky hair and she can charge for the relaxer. Any real stylist could blow dry your kinky hair straight so it isn't noticeable next to relaxed hair. Any stylist who pressures you into getting a chemical service you don't want should be avoided! What the hell would she do if you were all natural? No one needs a relaxer if they don't want one, and don't let her tell you that you need one.

And if you notice your hair is getting better, growing, and has less shedding, you're doing something right! Maybe it was the "perm" that had it in trouble to begin with!

Think about it.....you stopped perming to stop damage, it gets better, and her advice is to perm it again? Time to find a new stylist. I wish you were in Atlanta, I have a good stylist I could recommend you go to.

Also, talk to Pokahontas about straightening natural hair. Her hair is all natural, and she has it straightened better than a relaxer, and it's gorgeous.

If your hair is too soft, like my mother's hair, almost ANY relaxer will damage it.