Yes this is my hair!!! vent

I'm sick of people asking me if this is my hair.

Just a few days ago,after my aerobics class this lady with her hair braided into an "up do out do"  was all up in my hair.  I usually exercise near the instructor since i plan on becoming an instructor myself, so everyone in the back can see me.  All i had was a braid out, tied back. Ol'e girl comes up to me and asks how did I get my hair like that. I didn't mind telling her but dang, why did she have to look back at your friend and make a face like ===>. After that she just said oooooooo, ok, its cute! and just stood there...I saw her a few days later without her braided updo and I'm guessing she was waiting to see if I had a weave in. Don't want to assume but the reaction tells alot

Then Monday I had my mom cornrow my hair, cause I can't do it myself.  So I went to work the next day, cornrows to the back, the last loose strands wrapped into a scrunchi.  NONE of the length was showing and this 5th grader  first asked me if the cornrows was my own hair. Then she said I had long hair, just by looking at the cornrows.

I had to stop wearing my hair in a stretched low afro- puff because some 5th grader at another school felt the need to try to "rip my fake puff off"

This is crazy! I know this mind set is common but it's just  wild that so many people feel that we have to have weave.   I just want to shout out, "PEOPLE WE CAN GROW OUR OWN HAIR".

It's getting tiring just thinking about it. I have tried to offer sites but many of those people claim they either don't have the time or they don't need it. Then don't ask me for advice if you don't want it.

Edited by cmesweet

It is very annoying. I'd rather people didn't ask. Better yet, I wish they didn't notice my hair at all and I could wear it anyway I liked. (that's another reason why I like wearing buns. No one notices it)

@ Tffy passing out cards with hair forum links sound wonderful.  Whenever they ask, I'll just flip them the card.

 

@Pheonix I know where you are coming from. My hair is pretty much in some type of scrunchi, bun or claw clamp ( while in twists or braids)where my length can't show.  It seems like you have to duck and dodge every few minutes when they notice your hair.

@R2D2inoz  It's good to put a positive spin on it. But I have been chased down at the grocery store over my hair once.  I guess you can say I know what it feels like to be a celebrity.

Renata there is nothing wrong with someone asking. But the woman mentioned made a facial expression that I would find rude, at least to me it was)

Asking a question is also different then someone pulling your hair to try to take the "weave" out. It's painful  since it's not a weave and even if it was a weave It would still be painful; because either way it's attached to your head one way or another.

Oh my 

Okay should I be offended if noone asks me that question lolol but I understand that it can be annoying that ppl think Afam women can't grow their hair

Pokahontas wrote: I hear your frustration.  I get sick of people yanking my ponytail just to see if it comes off.  They try to pretend that they're doing it in a playful way but I know why they're doing it. Oh, here's another one.  When I wear my hair natural I get so sick of people yelling "Oh, you cut your hair!".  Don't they realize curly hair shrinks up, duh!  It dosen't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out....sheesh!

That one gets me too. I always wonder how some people can be so "empty". Pardon my bluntness. (In my case, it's when I wear it curly)

If they think about it for a second, they can compare hair coils, ringlets, or curls to a piece of string or some other item they can wrap around their finger. They can see that when they hold it out straight, it is long, but when they wrap it, or coil it, it looks shorter. That doesn't mean that it is truly shorter though. When hair is curly like in a roller set, it is doing the same thing. An experiment like that shouldn't even have to be acted out for them to figure out how it works.

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I am so glad that someone can feel my frustration.  Yeah people really do need to think. But thinking is too Easy, many like to learn the hard way.  Grab the wrong hair and they will find out

 Its irritating how many of us think our hair can't grow long not long ago I was one of those people, we've been told so many lies about our hair anyway my hair is just a bit off shoulder length and I hope for armpit by the end of the year and then on to bra strap, I can't wait to start having people ask me THE annoying question "Is that your real hair?"hee hee, I'm gonna take it as a compliment until about I'm asked the "one millionth time" then someone's gonna get bruised

Damn straight you think you're cute!!! I'd think less of you if you thought you weren't cute. Sadly, in this society, women who hate what they look like is so normal that people think something's wrong with you if you don't dislike what you look like.

So the next time someone says, "she thinks she's cute," just smile and say to yourself, "DUH!"