OMG bout 2 have a heart attack

omg 2morrow is my trim!! if dat guy does wut he did last time( turned my 1in trim into a seven inch chop) this is wuts gonna happen i no it seems extreme but i've finally reached my halfway goal and am having serious scissor phobia right now lol. jus gunna cross my fingers fa now tho.. wish me luck

NOOOOO!!!!  it does not sound extreme!!!! you let him know exactly what you want! If he makes one cut that is to mutch, you stand up and walk out of there with the cape still on if you have to!!!  You have every righ there is to tell him how much you want taken off!!!

     Hi Sugar Cube! I'm with the others. Crossing your fingers won't help, and you should *never* go back to someone who discarded your wishes (and hair) last time. *Even* if that person is a friend or relative. *The stylist* is the one who abused the trust, not you, and he or she knows it!

Edited by Bob S - July 09 2007 at 3:20pm

i know i know, i shouldn't be goin back but i don't know neother stylist tho..... i'm goin 2 be really firm this time and not back down with all her suggestions

SugarCube wrote: i know i know, i shouldn't be goin back but i don't know neother stylist tho..... i'm goin 2 be really firm this time and not back down with all her suggestions

Okay so, for some strange reason this reminds me of an episode of Oprah. She had a couple of child molesters on the show and the kids that had been molested. They molested the kids over and over again, but the kids continued to stay in the bad situation. When asked why the kids didn't leave the situation or tell someone sooner. Turns out the molester began to build trust again with the kids after the first times. Then they built more and more trust until the kid allowed them to do it to them again!

I know this is completely far fetched as hel_l lol, but this is to say if they did it once they will do it again. On that one day that you've built up your trust because they've been doing your hair nicely for the past few months, you may forget to yell at them or smack them around a little bit about the fact that you're paying them to do a service for you not vice versa. I don't know about you. But it's a lot of energy to continuously be aggressive and mean to someone. I'm sure you could find someone on this board that visits a decent salon in your area. A stylist you can see, that you don't have to bully or that wont bully you into getting something you didn't want. Sorry, I've just gotten the shaft too many times by stylist.

Ciao

I was just wondering the same thing. SugerCube, is everything all right?

Many good points made here.  I wonder why you sought out this stylist again, SugarCube.  I hope your hair is okay and mostly (if not almost entirely) intact.

Alisa06 wrote: I have to say this one thing about being firm, sometimes it just does not work When my hair was cut last November, I told her only an inch on the bottom ,and three layered up. I even showed her how much on her comb, ans told her that my hair is curly, if you take 1 in off,it will respond like 3.  I ended up with an 8-12 inch "trim". Sometimes, I think that they just think they know best.She though my hair was o thick, so she took a razor to it from the shoulders down ( remember it was at my waist).

There is absolutely no excuse for stylists to behave this way.  It is extremely unprofessional, yet I read (and personally hear about!) such stories all the time.  Such stylists need to learn to put aside their own personal preferences and just honor their clients' requests.

I agree, Hairbraider, and Dave!!!

I would go to one that you pay a high price for and tip for if they know they have a good pay and tip coming there more likely to do a good job. I go in there and i put my fist down and i look them dead in the eye Im not nice at all whe ni go see my stylist if that hurts there feelings to bad im not going there to make a friend. I also state do not talk to me while you cut my hair i want you to concentrate so dont talk to anyone or get up and leave. I tell them up front I am going to tip you such and such amount by following what i say. If you dont I wont tip you this amount so listen to what i say i am a client and want what i feel is best for MY hair.  I also make them show me where they are going to cut before they can cut into it. YOu just have to make some serious boundaries with them and make some ground rules. Ive gone to the same lady now I think she gets my drift and knows how to act around me.

OMG GUYS GUESS WUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!yea well i skimped on the gell and oil and use some cream and serum n it turns out i don't have as many splits as i thought!!!!!!! i guess the oil was drying my hair up and when i felt my ends i assumed there weere splits n now i found there aren't just about the last 1/4 inch which i'm gonna go to get dusted im sooooo happy i could cry. i am DEF goona use my new hair conoction (runs around the room screaming weeee while dad, sis n cats quietly shake their heads n mutter amusingly "oh LORD what did that child drink now jk lolz")