long hair on boys

Oops! Oh well. The nature of humans seems to be to need to immediately identify the gender of others...

Omg,who cares,he is just a little kid still,i had curly long hair at that age and looked like a girl(until i got a little older),im a hell of alot older now and i could cair less about back then.I kinda like it too because now i got an idea of how my hair looked long.so i say just keep the kids hair long.

But I am spotty and moody =( That doesn't make me a bad person or any less Unique compared to others. And I am unique, I've always been the odd guy out since I was young.

enfys wrote: Let him stay like that at least until he's a spotty, moody teenager!.

Hey I take offence at that.

Sorry read that wrong =P I really should register so I can edit.

Just leave it alone and don't say anything about it to him, if he wants it cut he'll decide himself.

Something to remember. He is only 14 months old. DO what you want to do as a parent.

My personal opinion is that very young children should have shorter hair untill they are old enough to know the difference and prefer one way to another. Even then very long hair on a younger kid can be too much if they are not tidy about it. i wouldnt want to be the parent who has to constantly tie their hair up.

Anyways, I think as a young boy it should be short untill hes old enough to tell that hes a boy even with long hair and only then if he wants it long.


As a man, I prefer men with long hair...i wish my boyfriend had long hair. But unless the kid wants it long, keep it short untill hes more manly and do always let him know how hansome he will look when it is long, when he is older. I think middleschool is a good age for a boy to have long hair and still look male.

In highschool and beyond he shouldnt get teased at all really unless he is efeminate. Then its normal for guys to have longer hair.

Just whatever you do dont go for the rat tail look!!! Even if you think you can see how long his hair could have been if your keeping it short still dont do the rat tail! Thats far worse than being called a girl every once in a while...in my opinion...

but of course I AM a girl...so maybe my opinion is off about that =)

Jenna wrote: He's just a kid so it's not that serious. :)

AGEISM ALERT!

Wake up and smell the expresso! This is the year 2003! Men or women should be able in a free society to wear their hair as long or short as they want! Geeeeeeezzzzz! Give me a break! And if someone is so stupid they can't tell the difference between a guy and a gal, regardless of their hair length, then they are an idiot!


People should just wear their hair how they want,.......... and if someone doesn't like your son's long hair,..... well train your kid in karate so he can kick the friggin daylights out of the creep who is giving him a bad time about it!

Zap! Pow! Make your kid a tough guy so he can be as mean as the creeps who bother him are!

Thank you for asking this question and
for wanting the best for your son. I will
answer it on two levels.

1) The first part of my answer is very
straightforward: it is my adamant opinion
that CADEN should make the final choice
about HIS hair. Thus, if he wants to keep
it long as you have let it grow, and
tolerate teasing, let him. That is kudos
for his character - he can stand up to it.
On the other hand, if he is one day upset
because kids tease him about it, or if he
wants it cut for another reason, it's his
hair again and you should allow it. By
all means, suggest he sleep on it, plainly
make him aware of the consequences
(if he cuts it and doesn't like it, it'll take a
long time to grow back) but do not be
obsessive about trying to get him to (or
making him) keep it. This is posessive
and wholly unnecessary. At his age, I
don't think he'll be asking to cut it, but
he may not like you cutting his hair, so
allow him to make his own decision
about it.

2) As for growing it longer, this is a
tougher one. Again, what he wants
(yes, at his age he may well be able
to express a preference) should be
paramount, but I don't know if it would
be a good idea to cut it (if he doesn't
mind) or not let it grow longer if it
would spare him being teased. On one
hand, I am against conformism and
have respect for guys with long hair.
On the other hand, your son shouldn't
be forced to change the world, so
some conformity to what his peers are
like (I repeat if he doesn't mind
conforming) may be helpful. Kids are
likely to tease for anything, but
especially for anything "weird" (even
if I liked sailor suits, and I think they're
ridiculous, I'd never put one on a son
of mine. Too "weird"). Does that mean
parents should never do anything
unusual to their childrens' dress? Maybe
but not necessarily - it's a difficult
question. I will therefore not advise you
to cut his hair, but consider not letting
it grow much longer (unless he wants
to, again) and keeping it tied back. And
if you do decide to cut it, I would advise
you not to cut it too short. He doesn't
need a "short back and sides" (tapered
short classic male haircut) to look like a
boy, indeed I find such a haircut makes
a little boy look forlorn. A longer,
relatively short haircut would probably
be the best answer if you do decide to
cut it. But before deciding to do so, use
your good judgement and don't let what
you want get in the way of what would
make him happy.

Cadensmama,

Your son is a cutie pie. I agree with Gollan - kids will tease other kids for just about anything. So I wouldn't let other kids potential teasing be the only factor in your decision. As far as that woman accusing you of abuse and neglect, well, if she was pointing a finger at you she should realize that there were 3 fingers pointing back at her. Next time someone says something ignorant like that to you just say "bag it" and walk away.

Let us know what you decide!
Caramia