Guys with traditionaly feminine styles

Hey Dawn,

Thank your reply. My hair is thick pretty light brown, center parted and to mid ear from the top and to my earlobes overall with bangs to my eyebrows. I have an appt to get it cut in 3 weeks and I'm looking for pics of a short feminine bob that is full in the back with bangs. I think I will just come out and tell the girl that does my hair that i LOVE fem bobs and that I want one. What are your thoughts? I mean what can my wife say if i get a feminine bob that I CAN'T hide right? Any pics or suggestions or help are appreciated. thanks

Ok I went to the salon and straight out told the girl that I want a feminine girls bob, earlobe length with bangs and a stacked back. She said that length and style would look great on me and she cut my hair so that when it grows out a little (about 1 to 2 months worth) it will be a one length earlobe length bob with bangs. Right now its more like a bowl cut with bangs as I let the sides grow longer but the back is there. SOON I will have a fem earlobe length bob with bangs MMMMMMMMM can't wait.

Go Jamie!  You be yourself.  Your spouse will come around, especially if she knows it makes you happy. 

Glad you had a good time, Jamie. That's a great style for a growout, too. It should look good at every length. Long hair obviously isn't for everyone, but is certainly is a pleasure for those of us who love it-- guys included.

I'm new to this forum but not new to long, feminine hair.  I have always had it since it became possible.  I am straight and married and my wife lets me have what I want!  I used to have waist-length hair for many years, with only slight changes.  I cut it back above shoulder length once to get a job but grew it back and have only had styling done occasionally since then.  I had feathered-back bangs cut in at one point and later had straight bangs, both times with the rest to my waist.

A little more than a year ago I got tired of the split ends, etc., and got my wife to chop it off to shoulder length.  We agreed it needed professional repair so I took my time to find a good stylist to have her give me an angled bob style.  Since then I added some stacking to the back and last time I had her color the stacking two shades darker for some kind of "lowlights" (I get her to color my gray roots each time).

I really enjoy the bob and although it draws some stares and double-takes occasionally, it is casually accepted by 99% of the people I encounter.  All my friends and co-workers are used to it now.  I wear it "down" almost always, only tucking it behind my ears for the most conservative occasions.  Yes--you really can wear a bob!

Jamie-I agree and I am pushing the frontier with a bob!  You can see my basic cut in my avatar--the angle and stack are evident.  I am letting the front grow out, maybe an inch more, and angle it even more then.  Plus I may have the stacking dyed black instead of just a couple of shades darker than my normal.  I have lots of pix on the GuysWithBobs Group on Yahoo--are you a member of that group?

Hi jamie, There is nothing wrong in being yourself. I was also in a dilemma about a couple of years before. but now i don't really care much about what others think. After all it is our life. below is my photo of hair.

have fun.

Edited by rame - June 15 2015 at 1:11am

There are certainly distinct differences between masculine and feminine decor style, however, this does not mean that it is not possible to mix these two styles together to make a coherent living space.

Unfortunately there will always be people who stick so strictly to gender norms and societal ideals that they will put down anyone who doesn’t fit into what is expected. I agree that in most cases women can get away with shorter hair styles and they aren’t singled out as much for being masculine. The notion that men are supposed to be masculine is sometimes a lot stricter than women being feminine. Girls are allowed to be tom boyish and sporty without much ridicule.

 

In some cases though certain women are singled out for having a short masculine hairstyle, some ignorant people may look at them and automatically assume that they are lesbians or unfeminine which is totally unethical and just plain stupid. But people will judge no matter what so you have to do what makes you happy.

 

If the hairstyle suits your face and you like it then keep it! If you let every negative person out there influence what you did you would never live your life for YOU. I think some men look great with longer hair; some men have the face and bone structure to really pull of the longer styles.

Thanks for the replies. Erica, I did ask a stylist once how I would look with a bob and she said my face and features were great for that style.that's one reason I am wanting to get one so bad.
Bobbed, you are lucky to have a great bob already. I want to be able to enjoy that feeling too, and the dressing up as well.
That said, nobody has offered any advice on how to deal with all the people that pressure me to get a haircut and what length and style bob is the most feminine and sexy.
I really need advice because I want to let my hair grow and finally get the feminine bob that I have always wanted.