boy with long hair

I am 14 and I have long straight brown hair past my knees. I started growing my hair 7 years ago. My mom likes it long but says I can cut it if I want to but she would be disappointed. I like it long but some say makes me look like a girl-and call me a sissy. I like it long but should I cut it? Any other boys out there like me? Any similar moms out there with ideas?

Wear the hair that You want.

I'm almost 30 and couldn't have long hair when I was under 18. I was so frustrated by not having a choice that after I turned 18 I went to get a short haircut by myself and asked for what I wanted. I got it cut to about 3 inches long. It was short but not a buzzcut. I have been growing my hair ever since then except for a few times when I got a lot of trims and didn't let it get longer. My hair is currently touching the top of my pants. I plan to grow it longer.

The moderator DaveDecker has hair about your length. I've seen several other men posting their pictures of really long hair. There's nothing wrong with that. The people that don't like it and think it's strange are the ones who are wrong.

kids will tease you if you have long hair, short hair, if your white/black/asian/spanish/eskimo/a spaghetti monster, kids in genral suck.

*Im a ray of sunshine today huh? *

I think your hair sounds beautiful and exotic, and thats something most kids your age cant appreicate.  If you want to cut your hair then do it, but only do it if YOU really want to.  Otherwise I think you should go against the grain and wear it as long as  you like.

Oh, and I know your young now, but when you get older.... well.... girls will think its really hot  

I agree with what Kalika said.

No matter what you do, if you are someone they want to tease they will find something to tease you about. If you cut your hair they'll pick on your shoes. If you change your shoes they'll pick on your book bag, if you change your bag they'll ...........  I hope you get the idea.

So the question is are you going to change yourself for them when you don't want to or are you going to change yourself for yourself when You want to? Or are you happy with the way you are and you're going to stay as is?

Do it for you. Whatever it is. It's yours not theirs.

If you are getting teased then find some of the other kids that get teased and be friends with them. Being teased can give you a lonely feeling. So find the other kids and be alone together.

I have to agree with the others.  If you like your hair then I think you should keep it, being teased for whatever reason is unavoidable really.  And I'm willing to wager there's people around you who appreciate your hair, sometimes it's just hard to hear them over the jerks. 

Hey ChelseaB how short did you get your haircut? I thought it would have been different since you are a girl.

WOW Molly, down to your knees, that is just GREAT! I am so impressed. I think that if you really like it that long, & are willing to put up with the teasing & the upkeep, then definetly keep it long. I don't know about growing it any longer thou; it seems to me that any more length might get to be a hassle. A few years ago I posted to this board about my son's hair. When he was ten he had beautiful blond waves down to his waist. I didn't want it cut, but I let him decide on his 10th B day. It took some convincing, but he decided to keep it growing. The teasing wasn't to bad, because he went to a private school, although strangers just always thought he was a cute girl. Right before he started 7th grade I got a new job. We had to move, & he had to attend a public school. It's tough being the new kid, but when your small, cute, & with hair down to your bottom it's really hard. For the first week or so all the kids thought he was a girl. He tried to deal with it, but it was just to much, so on his 10th B day we donated 18 inches to the Locks of Love. It was really neat because he got his picture in the paper along with a nice interview. He was very brave all thru the pictures and cut, but when we got to the car he broke down & cried all the way home. That was last Nov. & since then he has grown it down to mid back, & has no plans on cutting. What I'm trying to say is that if you cut it you will be sorry. I know Robbie is. I we hadn't cut it we would be approaching your length, although I really loved his length right before it was cut. Anyway best of luck & keep us posted.

Tina

I agree with youngermom,  you may not be happy if you cut it.  It takes so long to grow and it sounds like yours it quite long.  I had mine long several years ago and cut it short and I regreted it. Think about it.

ChelseaB wrote: Hi Jared, II am not sure what you are talking about... the shortest my hair has ever been is a little above my shoulders and is currently about 4 inches past my shoulders now...are you trying to be sarcastic? If you think I was being mean to Mollyhair, that wasn't my intent. I was just being realistic. I don't think that he should get his hair cut at all. Just dont want him to have a  false sense of security for when school and reality starts. And yes...I am a girl..so? Please clarify what you are getting at.

I agree with Chelsea...and with everyone else.  I think that if Molly leaves his hair as is, he's going to be known as "the guy with long hair."  Now, depending on his personality, it could be said in a good way, a bad way, or a neutral way.  It's really impossible for anyone here to say either "Cut it" or "Don't cut it."  High school can be a really difficult time, but it can also be a fun time.  So the question is how comfortable is he with his hair?  How much of his identity is his hair?  Is having the long hair worth enduring nasty comments from insecure people (because that's the kind of person that's going to single someone out like that)?  Or is it worth sacrificing seven years of growth to try to blend in a little?  And even if you do chop the hair off, that's no guarantee you won't get teased.  Frankly, there are people that could shave their head, wear it sweeping the floor, or go to class stark naked or in the most hideous outfit known to man and not get teased.  And there are some people who can do everything in their power to blend in and still be hounded mercilessly.  I have no idea why. 

Also, what's the current situation?  Are you being harassed over your hair now or are you just nervous about starting a new school?  I honestly don't foresee things changing that much.  If no one is really bugging you about it now, they probably won't in high school either. 

Oh, and one pro for keeping your hair: you're almost a shoo-in for "Best Hair" when your class votes for senior superlatives! 

Molly, Thanks for the message. I'm not really a computer person, so I don't know how to do that yet. I'm really glad that you are going to keep your hair. You won't be sorry. What kind of shape is it in? When my son's hair got below his waist we had problems with split ends. How do you deal with that? Also I just found all my old posts; they were moved to the hair politics section. I had no idea they kept them so long. My son tends to wear the unisex styles. It seems to compliment his hair, if you know what I mean. Good Luck, & keep us posted.

Tina