Renata you got that right! Just a minute ago, some girl passed me saying, " U think you special with your hair up and all." My response was, "I sure do, or no one else would."
Well for some these comments could be a mile stone. To those, I wish them luck. But when they try to yank your hair out of your head...you'll know what I'm talking about.
I don't think I have the right length just yet to get gawked at, but I have had a fellow classmate actually come up to me and pull on one of my curls while asking how I got my hair to be curly and shiny. I didn't mind the question but the self-invitation to just pull on it was not cool. But what I do hate is if I wear my hair done and the wind is blowing I'll flip my hair out of my eyes. I've heard women say "Oh she thinks she's cute" Things like that. It's really annoying!
Dang!!! But when it's in your face, it is only natural for you to flip it in the other direction without thinking twice. (they must not know... if they do not and/or never had long hair) It just comes naturally.
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I don't have seriously long hair like yall, I just have seriously thick hair. Even when I get a perm the thickness is apparent. Its about 2 inches from my bra strap now but a year and a half ago I cut it just past my ear. People litterally wouldn't talk to me because they were just sooo angry, WHAT THE HECK, how dare you refuse to talk to me becuase I cut MY hair! It was almost as if it had been their own! Not only that but my hair grows reasonably fast so EVERY DAY someone, that I could have seen every day for the past 4 years, will walk up to me and ask if its mine, pull on it a little, tell me not to cut it, and tell me how they love my thick "long" hair. I personally dont' think its that long because most of best friend truly has long hair so I know what long hair REALLY is. I can understand how yall feel, but I mean, why do people that see me EVERY DAY ask and say the SAME TIRED OLD THING every time they see me. I wish I was exaggerating but I'm not. My ultimate hair goal is waist length by my graduation in May 2007, so If i reach that goal I don't think I'll be able to handle the constant questions... lord bless these simple minded hair lovers. Lol.
Edited by mealncholymonie - May 14 2006 at 10:30am
Just wanted to chime in here that it's not just y'all. It's not uncommon for white women with very long hair to get it yanked "just to see if it's real". I think people like that enjoy humiliating others. Can you imagine how it would feel to get your hairpiece yanked off in public?!
One time I had my hair up with the curly ends hanging out covering the bun. Someone told me that I needed to get a puff that matched my hair better. (the ends of my hair are lighter) I said "um... that is my hair!" She stuttered something and turned and walked away.
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Sadly, in this society, women who hate what they look like is so normal that people think something's wrong with you if you don't dislike what you look like.
Yeah... I think I shock people when I tell them I love my natural curly hair. One girl in particular looked at me like she thought I was crazy.
well you got a witness here about the hair showdowns. For some reason, some women can't see you looking nice, so they have to tear you down. I used to worry alot when people would ask me if my hair was a wig. i tried to hide it in ponytails and tuck it under or with hats because they would want to feel it and play with it. i hate that, especially if i don't know you.
Now i don't worry about it and when they make comments i just say, whatever! and i tell them to step off. I know it sounds a little harsh but i just laugh to ease their pain.. hee hee
By the way, i think alot of stuff about Afro hair being long and unnatural, started from our own people making fun of us. like on BET or in comedy shows or just pointing it out to others while we skurps by in out nice duds, so now people think every black head has a weave on it, especially if it is past your shoulders.
Edited by kellie7777 - January 21 2007 at 12:49am
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I also dont like when poeple ask me that quetion when i was little people always used to say is that your hair? or the worst quetion what are you mixed with? they constantly ask as if black women cant grow their hair and anyone can. When i was in class this new girl said that she didn't know black poeples hair can grow so long just because hers is short. I feel like she is so ignorant for saying so. As of now ive been natural for 10 months and just had the big chop about 5 inches so now i have about 5 inches of new growth so happy.
by the way i think you all have beautiful hair i cant wait until mine grows back out!!!!
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